Everyone has their dream guy or girl. This person could be modeled after some celebrity (ahem Larenz Tate in Love Jones) or guy or girl next door, but we all have them. Some people aspire to be that dream person to everyone. They make strides to ensure that they are desired and sought after by the masses. Whether it be buying that car their ass can’t afford, putting on those mink eye lashes, or just confirming to what they think may be the dream of everyone else.
The Dream once detailed this kind of girl in his song “Fancy.” The beady eyed ballad singer said “she spends her time abroad yachts, if somewhere not tasting wine. In Paris seducing me while we dine, she’s only 23 but ahead of time, she’s the dream of a billion men…go girl.” I’m sure everyone can picture this girl he sings of, but the question is do you want to be the dream of a billion or the reality of one.
I would personally rather be the dream girl to one guy, and he be my dream than the dream of a billion. The feeling of being the dream of the one you want to be with is the best feeling in the world. And it doesn’t require you to break the bank for that new yaki weave, spend your last on a chain, or be perfect in the eyes of everyone…you just have to be yourself. That’s enough to be the reality for the one who counts.
-Becks
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Daily Insight: Pull Your Skirt Down Theory
I was asked by a friend of mine to touch on a subject that has plagued the male species for some time now, but is becoming way more prevalent in this age of over sharing. Ever been scrolling through your favorite social network, and stumble upon a grown ass man crying (not literally) about something? Now, I appreciate a man expressing their feelings just as much as anyone else…but I do not appreciate a crying ass man. Allow me to elaborate.
I call this the Drake theory. We all know good old Drake, the Canadian singer/rapper/Kleenex spokesperson. He has made it common place for men to cry, whine, complain, ect over every little thing. Not only is this not attractive, it’s down right annoying.
I like to refer to the feeling I get when I see this happening more often than not as the “pull your skirt down” theory. I know we have all thought or said these phrases.Yes, I saw you call me 6 times, then text to let me know you called 6 times. Yes, I’m going to go kick it with my girls this weekend. Yes, I am finally over you…after you played me a year ago, then tried to get back into my good graces when plan B failed. Yes, not everything will go your way.
We all have come across these guys. And we all have had to say these things to them. Next time you come across one, just tell them to pull their skirt down, and get your poncho out for the waterworks that are sure to follow.
-Becks
I call this the Drake theory. We all know good old Drake, the Canadian singer/rapper/Kleenex spokesperson. He has made it common place for men to cry, whine, complain, ect over every little thing. Not only is this not attractive, it’s down right annoying.
I like to refer to the feeling I get when I see this happening more often than not as the “pull your skirt down” theory. I know we have all thought or said these phrases.Yes, I saw you call me 6 times, then text to let me know you called 6 times. Yes, I’m going to go kick it with my girls this weekend. Yes, I am finally over you…after you played me a year ago, then tried to get back into my good graces when plan B failed. Yes, not everything will go your way.
We all have come across these guys. And we all have had to say these things to them. Next time you come across one, just tell them to pull their skirt down, and get your poncho out for the waterworks that are sure to follow.
-Becks
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Daily Insight: Let The Top Back
There are those days when everything going right in your life seems to just overwhelm you. Those are the days you just have to “let the top back and thank God for the day,” as Rick Ross would day. There are several days when I wake up, maybe not in the best of moods, because I personally think 7:30 is too early for any human being to open their eyes. But, as the day wears on, and I take a moment to reflect all I’ve been blessed with it can be overwhelming at times. I am extremely blessed and highly favored.
I have family that supports and loves me, I have friends that I can depend on, and push me to accomplish more. I have experiences that have shaped the person I am today. I have enough sense to make the right decisions, and when I don’t I can learn from them.
With all that said, although I don’t have a convertible…hell, I don’t even have a sun roof…I still metaphorically let the top back and thank God for the day!
-Becks
I have family that supports and loves me, I have friends that I can depend on, and push me to accomplish more. I have experiences that have shaped the person I am today. I have enough sense to make the right decisions, and when I don’t I can learn from them.
With all that said, although I don’t have a convertible…hell, I don’t even have a sun roof…I still metaphorically let the top back and thank God for the day!
-Becks
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Daily Insight: Grass Ain't Greener
A wise man once said "the grass isn't always greener on the other side." People often have the tendency to see what others have from the outside and assume its so much better than what they have. But I have news, it's not that the grass isn't greener on the other side...it's the most green where you water it.
The single person sees that guy or girl in a relationship and longs to be in one themselves. Not knowing the relationship you long for is suffocating that other person and they're losing themselves in it. Why not water your grass, meaning work on yourself so when that relationship does come along it can be with the right person, and you can offer that person the best version of yourself.
You think your homie with the freelance job, making their own schedule is living the life and you want that. Why not poke your head out of that cubicle long enough to realize with hard work and consistency you can have a job you love just as much, and have stability all at the same time.
I'm saying this to say don't go peaking over that fence to your neighbors lawn at their grass. Put your focus on your own grass and water the hell out of it. You never know what kind of weeds they have over there.
-Becks
The single person sees that guy or girl in a relationship and longs to be in one themselves. Not knowing the relationship you long for is suffocating that other person and they're losing themselves in it. Why not water your grass, meaning work on yourself so when that relationship does come along it can be with the right person, and you can offer that person the best version of yourself.
You think your homie with the freelance job, making their own schedule is living the life and you want that. Why not poke your head out of that cubicle long enough to realize with hard work and consistency you can have a job you love just as much, and have stability all at the same time.
I'm saying this to say don't go peaking over that fence to your neighbors lawn at their grass. Put your focus on your own grass and water the hell out of it. You never know what kind of weeds they have over there.
-Becks
Thursday, July 12, 2012
Daily Insight: 25 Ain't 45
A wise man once said “we just having the time of our lives right now!” I couldn’t agree more with Mr. Carter.
I turned 25 a little over a month ago. When this milestone birthday was creeping up, I had no reservations about it, but as I’ve recently learned this carefree attitude is not shared by all of my peers. A friend of mine sought my advice on this issue. She was worried that her whole lifestyle would have to change because this quarter century birthday was coming up. I had a complete list of thoughts I shared with her on why you should not change a damn thing because you’re now 25. And because this is my here blog I’ll share what I told her.
First thing I made very clear. Last time I checked there is no line drawn in the fabric of time to say “at 25 you must immediately cease macking and hanging.” Yes, 25 is a big birthday but if you are satisfied with your lifestyle at 24, why should it change at 25?!
I have some news to share. We are not Cinderella. My chariot will not turn into a pumpkin at the stroke of midnight on my 25th birthday, and the bottle of Patron I’m grasping onto at my celebration of this birthday will not turn into a baby bottle!
The biggest transition birthday to me was the 21 to 22 year. I was able to graduate college in that year, and finally be able to enjoy my lifestyle with a little bit of money in my account. No more collecting bottle and cans to go to happy hour. Not like I ever did that, but you guys know what I’m getting at.
So let me let you guys in on a few fundamental truths that I realized on May 21st, 2012. Yes, I’ve officially been on this earth 25 years. I better throw myself one hell of a party (which I did)! And, I need to keep on the financial path I’ve set for myself to be out of my childhood bedroom sooner than later.
Everyone is going to have their own opinion on the matter, but I believe that the maturity you seek will come with time and not age. Yes, it’s true I don’t enjoy hugging the block as much as I did when I was 20. I don’t want to deal with a dude with no car as I may of tolerated when I was 19, and I don’t want to go to the same sweat box parties I may of loved in college, but those are my personal growths. You can’t depend on a number to tell yourself when you want to move on to new phases in life.
The moral of the story is age ain’t nothing but a damn number as Aaliyah said. If you’re having the time of your life at 24 I would hope like hell you’d want it to continue right on into 25. I know I surely did!
-Becks
I turned 25 a little over a month ago. When this milestone birthday was creeping up, I had no reservations about it, but as I’ve recently learned this carefree attitude is not shared by all of my peers. A friend of mine sought my advice on this issue. She was worried that her whole lifestyle would have to change because this quarter century birthday was coming up. I had a complete list of thoughts I shared with her on why you should not change a damn thing because you’re now 25. And because this is my here blog I’ll share what I told her.
First thing I made very clear. Last time I checked there is no line drawn in the fabric of time to say “at 25 you must immediately cease macking and hanging.” Yes, 25 is a big birthday but if you are satisfied with your lifestyle at 24, why should it change at 25?!
I have some news to share. We are not Cinderella. My chariot will not turn into a pumpkin at the stroke of midnight on my 25th birthday, and the bottle of Patron I’m grasping onto at my celebration of this birthday will not turn into a baby bottle!
The biggest transition birthday to me was the 21 to 22 year. I was able to graduate college in that year, and finally be able to enjoy my lifestyle with a little bit of money in my account. No more collecting bottle and cans to go to happy hour. Not like I ever did that, but you guys know what I’m getting at.
So let me let you guys in on a few fundamental truths that I realized on May 21st, 2012. Yes, I’ve officially been on this earth 25 years. I better throw myself one hell of a party (which I did)! And, I need to keep on the financial path I’ve set for myself to be out of my childhood bedroom sooner than later.
Everyone is going to have their own opinion on the matter, but I believe that the maturity you seek will come with time and not age. Yes, it’s true I don’t enjoy hugging the block as much as I did when I was 20. I don’t want to deal with a dude with no car as I may of tolerated when I was 19, and I don’t want to go to the same sweat box parties I may of loved in college, but those are my personal growths. You can’t depend on a number to tell yourself when you want to move on to new phases in life.
The moral of the story is age ain’t nothing but a damn number as Aaliyah said. If you’re having the time of your life at 24 I would hope like hell you’d want it to continue right on into 25. I know I surely did!
-Becks
Wednesday, July 11, 2012
Daily Insight: Scratching The Itches
Curiosity is one of those emotions that God gave us to get us in trouble and let us learn a few lessons. We all know that feeling that you get when you really want to find out about something and you do so even if it's against your better judgment. Those curious feelings are like itches. You feel it there so naturally your ass is gonna try to find out what it is, and eventually satisfy that curiosity by scratching.
A wise man once said "not all itches need to be scratched, because they may leave scars." I couldn't say "let the church say amen" to this more! We have all been I situations where we let our curiosity get the best of us and ended up leaving unnecessary scars.
It's natural to feel that itch or to be curious but don't let it get the best of you. We all have scars, but not too many that they can't be covered up.
-Becks
A wise man once said "not all itches need to be scratched, because they may leave scars." I couldn't say "let the church say amen" to this more! We have all been I situations where we let our curiosity get the best of us and ended up leaving unnecessary scars.
It's natural to feel that itch or to be curious but don't let it get the best of you. We all have scars, but not too many that they can't be covered up.
-Becks
Friday, June 1, 2012
Daily Insight: Playas Gonna Play
Every now and again, ok I’m lying like every 5 minutes a random song pops in my head. The random song of the moment happened to be 3LW’s “Playa’s Gonna Play.” If you really think about the lyrics these 3 Little Women were really dropping some jewels. A wise man once said, “Playas they gonna play, haters they gonna hate, ballers, they gonna ball, shot callers they gonna call.”
Now I know that these girls from this semi-popular group in the the early 2000’s probably just thought they had a hit single on their hands. But when you really think about it they are speaking some fundamental truths of life.
Everyone plays a role in life. First up are the playas, the people who have figured most of it out already. Whether, it is your cool ass Uncle still picking up women at the singles night. Or, that one person that always seems to have the perfect advice when it comes to the biddies of the opposite sex. You can learn a great deal from them. Pay attention.
Then of course you have your haters. The people who are going to push you to be greater because they are miserable with their lives. There’s nothing more to really say about that.
Now ballers, they are there to give you a constant reminder of something to strive to. Whether it’s making your dream salary at your dream job. Or popping models and pouring it on models every Saturday night. Hey, I don’t judge. But these people are here to remind you it’s attainable.
And of course the shot callers. The bosses, the parents, the planners. Where would we be without them? The goal here is to be one of them.
Saying all of this to say, the world has a certain balance of people that are in place for reasons. Find out which one is yours and start using it to your advantage.
-Becks
Now I know that these girls from this semi-popular group in the the early 2000’s probably just thought they had a hit single on their hands. But when you really think about it they are speaking some fundamental truths of life.
Everyone plays a role in life. First up are the playas, the people who have figured most of it out already. Whether, it is your cool ass Uncle still picking up women at the singles night. Or, that one person that always seems to have the perfect advice when it comes to the biddies of the opposite sex. You can learn a great deal from them. Pay attention.
Then of course you have your haters. The people who are going to push you to be greater because they are miserable with their lives. There’s nothing more to really say about that.
Now ballers, they are there to give you a constant reminder of something to strive to. Whether it’s making your dream salary at your dream job. Or popping models and pouring it on models every Saturday night. Hey, I don’t judge. But these people are here to remind you it’s attainable.
And of course the shot callers. The bosses, the parents, the planners. Where would we be without them? The goal here is to be one of them.
Saying all of this to say, the world has a certain balance of people that are in place for reasons. Find out which one is yours and start using it to your advantage.
-Becks
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