Daily Insight: Case Of The Ex

As you mat notice, I tend to reference music a lot in these daily insights. It is one of my favorite places to draw inspiration from. The best lyrical songs will really get you thinking about some things.

We all know that awkward moment when you run into that ex boyfriend or girlfriend, whether it is the one that you never wanted to see again, or the one you slightly stalk on Facebook, we all have experienced the same thing. For the sake of the point I am attempting to make today we will go with that ex that still evokes some kind of emotional response from you, and not the gag reflex.

The song that really got me thinking about this topic was “Case Of The Ex” by Mya. If you can get past the half singing, half shrieking thing Mya does she’s really speaking some truth in this song….

A wise man once said “what you gonna do when you can’t say no, when your feelings start to show, boy I really need to know. How you gonna act how you gonna handle that? What you gonna do when she want you back?”

Now that was only the chorus…Mya really gets into the thick of things when her current boyfriend is called at midnight one night by his ex girlfriend. I will go ahead a break down the many valid points Mya makes throughout the song:

“Now what is it that she wants? What is it that she needs? Did she just hear about the brand new Benz that you bought me? Cause ya’ll didn’t have no kids, didn’t share no mutual friends, and you told me that she turned trick when ya’ll broke up in ’96.” There’s always that ex that will creep back around cause they see you’re happy with the next man. They have no reason to keep in contact with you, because you avoided having kids with they ass, and ya’ll don’t have any friends in common. Now you heard she or he been around the block a few times since ya’ll called it quits in ’96 so you damn sure don’t want nothing to have to do with them now. Avoid this ex at all cause. This ex is like distant ass cousins you didn’t even know you had, that come looking for a handout when you hit the lottery. Exit stage left and don’t look back my friend.

“She don’t know me, she about to know me. I’m in your life and that’s how it’s gonna be. I’ve seen her photo she ain’t even all that. So if you want her back, you can take her back. Cuz game recognize game, I could do the same thing. Get it right or take back this ring.” If you know the person you’re with now is an upgrade in anyway from your ex, don’t even think about it. No one wants to go from driving a Cadillac that it took your ass 3 loans, 2 jobs, and whole lot of saving to get, back to riding around in a ’93 hatchback green Honda Civic. No one should be hustling backwards especially your ass.

Mya poses some valid points in this song. Yes, she speaks in hoodrat terms throughout most of the song, but it doesn’t change the validity of the issue. The point of someone being an ex is the shit didn’t work before, and most likely won’t work now. Let them stay an ex. Or you can just do like I do, and duck behind the nearest large obstruction when you see them and hope to hell they didn’t see you.

-Becks