As I come off of the high that was a hilariously perfect weekend trip with about 30 friends to the Pocs I realize there are a lot of lessons to be learned about your friends.
Like i didn't know this already but I have surrounded myself with some of the most classic, genuine, and hilarious people on the face of this earth. And not even all of my friends were on the trip. One other lesson I learned is at one point or another EVERY damn person is going to have to take one for the greater good of the team!
This can come in a multitude of fashions....whether it be, ehhh let's say flirting with a coworker to get your frens a free blog, or attending a Keith Sweat headlined concert cause one of your friends is completely thirsty to go (which no one would attend with me -___-). Or maybe it would be sacrificing some leg room in that 1999 VW Jetta so you can stuff your DJ equipment in the car for the betterment of the party. Or even giving a police officer a little bribe in the form of a little dance to make sure the party doesn't get shut down.
I say this to say at one point it's going to be one friends turn to take one for the team. Just make sure next time the cop is threatening to shut the party down you're willing to grab them ankles and keep the party popping :)
-Becks
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Daily Insight: Might Have To Stop Giving Inches
Some things in life you come to realize are a reoccurring theme. I’ve come across one of these themes that I think everyone can relate to. A wise man once said “give someone an inch and they’ll take a damn mile.” I have no idea who said this…but ain’t that the truth!?! It makes you sort of hesitant about who you start giving even a half an inch to…
For instance the man at your job you keep seeing, and finally engage in conversation when he corners you by the coffee machine in the cafeteria. “Oh hello sir, yes I do see you around a lot, oh ok my name is Becky nice to meet you.” Next thing you know everytime you pass this mans desk he has a comment that he just feels as though it’s imperative for you to hear! He even goes as far as responding to your “how are you,” with a sly grin, and a “better now that I’ve seen you.” SIR! Give me my inch back!
Or how about the person you have a bit of friendly banter back and forth with on that social networking site. Next thing you know they’re sending you a private message with they phone number talmbout hit me up. How about we keep this to a public forum? (Never happened to me btw).
Or that friend that you complimented that one sweater dress on….next thing you know they got 93829 sweater dresses fishing for compliments. They damn sure took that inch a bit far, and set back their wardrobe variety a mile in the meantime.
I say this to say that maybe there has to be a mutual understanding between an inch and a mile. Otherwise you might have to start turning those inches into millimeters.
-Becks
For instance the man at your job you keep seeing, and finally engage in conversation when he corners you by the coffee machine in the cafeteria. “Oh hello sir, yes I do see you around a lot, oh ok my name is Becky nice to meet you.” Next thing you know everytime you pass this mans desk he has a comment that he just feels as though it’s imperative for you to hear! He even goes as far as responding to your “how are you,” with a sly grin, and a “better now that I’ve seen you.” SIR! Give me my inch back!
Or how about the person you have a bit of friendly banter back and forth with on that social networking site. Next thing you know they’re sending you a private message with they phone number talmbout hit me up. How about we keep this to a public forum? (Never happened to me btw).
Or that friend that you complimented that one sweater dress on….next thing you know they got 93829 sweater dresses fishing for compliments. They damn sure took that inch a bit far, and set back their wardrobe variety a mile in the meantime.
I say this to say that maybe there has to be a mutual understanding between an inch and a mile. Otherwise you might have to start turning those inches into millimeters.
-Becks
Friday, January 14, 2011
Daily Insight: Consistency
I’ve been known to be somewhat of a creature of habit. Yes I like things to remain pretty level, and I like my routine. Everyone knows what kinds of foods I like, what my hobbies are, what shit I might talk, and what kind of cardigans I like to wear. I say that to say that there are aspects of your life no matter how distant they may be can share a common bond.
It dawned on me yesterday, wow, I like my men like I like my Chinese food store…CONSISTENT. If a biddie is known to hit you with the good morning text, known to give you a certain wiggly feeling, known to always have a haircut, I don’t want that to suddenly change. I’m sorry but I would like those things to stay consistent. Of course variety is the spice of life but something’s about men are better left unchanged. I also consider these aspects when choosing a Chinese food store…
Now let’s keep it real, Chinese food is one of those delicacies that can get a little shaky at times. We have all had those rib tips that just ain’t quite right. But when you find that one Golden Express that gets it right week after week, you stick with them. Hell after a while they may know what you like to order as soon as you walk in (ie chicken and broccoli white rice no broccoli, don’t ask).
I say this to say when you find a common bond in some aspects of your life don’t let that standard be compromised. If that biddie starts pulling disappearing acts, you cut that joint off! If that Chinese food store starts giving you cold ass egg rolls, you move on to the next Golden Express. They’re both a dime a dozen.
-Becks
It dawned on me yesterday, wow, I like my men like I like my Chinese food store…CONSISTENT. If a biddie is known to hit you with the good morning text, known to give you a certain wiggly feeling, known to always have a haircut, I don’t want that to suddenly change. I’m sorry but I would like those things to stay consistent. Of course variety is the spice of life but something’s about men are better left unchanged. I also consider these aspects when choosing a Chinese food store…
Now let’s keep it real, Chinese food is one of those delicacies that can get a little shaky at times. We have all had those rib tips that just ain’t quite right. But when you find that one Golden Express that gets it right week after week, you stick with them. Hell after a while they may know what you like to order as soon as you walk in (ie chicken and broccoli white rice no broccoli, don’t ask).
I say this to say when you find a common bond in some aspects of your life don’t let that standard be compromised. If that biddie starts pulling disappearing acts, you cut that joint off! If that Chinese food store starts giving you cold ass egg rolls, you move on to the next Golden Express. They’re both a dime a dozen.
-Becks
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Daily Insight: Shoes and Cars
A wise man once said “she don’t believe in shooting stars but she believe in shoes and cars.” I’m pretty sure Ye isn’t saying this particular girl doesn’t believe in all things as abstract as shooting stars, but he does have a point. Our society is driven by material things.
To homeboy who stood in line for 483732 hours to get them Jordans, make sure you spend just as much time with your loved ones. To the kid who spends $400 on a gaming console, make sure you know what it’s like to use your imagination. Running around the side of the house pretending to be a spy was THE MOST fun when I was a kid. To the woman who has the latest bag, make sure that’s the only baggage you’re carrying around. To the rapper wearing 93 Jesus pieces around your neck, make sure you know what you’re wearing symbolizes.
I will be the first to admit; YES I have an obscene amount of clothing, shoes, electronics, jewelry and other material possessions. But those are not the things that make me the most happy. The trick is to find things to stay grounded with and do not get lost in the world of material possessions.
Make a connection with a person rather than connecting your credit card to a register. Because when everything is said and done the material things you have are not the things you will be remembered for.
-Becks
To homeboy who stood in line for 483732 hours to get them Jordans, make sure you spend just as much time with your loved ones. To the kid who spends $400 on a gaming console, make sure you know what it’s like to use your imagination. Running around the side of the house pretending to be a spy was THE MOST fun when I was a kid. To the woman who has the latest bag, make sure that’s the only baggage you’re carrying around. To the rapper wearing 93 Jesus pieces around your neck, make sure you know what you’re wearing symbolizes.
I will be the first to admit; YES I have an obscene amount of clothing, shoes, electronics, jewelry and other material possessions. But those are not the things that make me the most happy. The trick is to find things to stay grounded with and do not get lost in the world of material possessions.
Make a connection with a person rather than connecting your credit card to a register. Because when everything is said and done the material things you have are not the things you will be remembered for.
-Becks
Friday, January 7, 2011
Daily Insight: Complain
A wise man once said “I can sing about love lost, but what if there’s no love to lose. If everyday I saw sunshine and it never rained the blues. If my fears were tears would they fall? If a smile could stretch a mile even if I have no money at all. But I’m willing to take whatever life brings, because you’re the only one who seems to know me. Even if the bad times call if I had you back I wouldn’t complain at all.”
I’m going to go ahead and interpret what Tweet was saying like I’m a translator. To me it all boils down to one thing. You can complain all you want about the things you don’t have, but whatever happened to just appreciating what you do? You complain that you don’t have any money, and you’re a broke college student (I’ve claimed this title), yet you’re in college to begin with, and have a roof over your head, and food to eat and feeing your mind daily. You complain about how this guy and that girl broke your heart, but you’ve experienced love to begin with, something a lot of people don’t ever get to feel. People constantly look at what other people have and start to count the things they don’t have, and of course complain about it. You complain about how your back is aching and your bra too tight and your booty shaking from left to right….ok that was a joke. But you get the point.
I say this to say not everything is going to be perfect and you will want to count other peoples blessing and compare them to your own. But life is not about that, I bet if you took a good hard look you wouldn’t be able to find too many damn things to complain about. I know I can’t.
-Becks
I’m going to go ahead and interpret what Tweet was saying like I’m a translator. To me it all boils down to one thing. You can complain all you want about the things you don’t have, but whatever happened to just appreciating what you do? You complain that you don’t have any money, and you’re a broke college student (I’ve claimed this title), yet you’re in college to begin with, and have a roof over your head, and food to eat and feeing your mind daily. You complain about how this guy and that girl broke your heart, but you’ve experienced love to begin with, something a lot of people don’t ever get to feel. People constantly look at what other people have and start to count the things they don’t have, and of course complain about it. You complain about how your back is aching and your bra too tight and your booty shaking from left to right….ok that was a joke. But you get the point.
I say this to say not everything is going to be perfect and you will want to count other peoples blessing and compare them to your own. But life is not about that, I bet if you took a good hard look you wouldn’t be able to find too many damn things to complain about. I know I can’t.
-Becks
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Daily Insight: 525,600 Minutes
Another year down people how crazy is it?? I feel like it was just yesterday when 2010 was being rung in and my friends head was in a trash can before midnight…but I digress..
2010 came and went but what will you say about this year when you look back on it? A wise man once said “525,600 minutes, 525,600 moments so dear, 525,600 minutes how will you measure, measure a year? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee, in inches in miles, in laugher, in strife, in 525,600 minutes, how do you measure a year in the life??”
This year for me personally was filled with ups and downs like a rollercoaster. High highs and some pretty low lows. But the point is that I remember and cherish the highs and take the lows as a lesson. Life is too short to waste a year no matter how fast it flys by.
If you look back on 2010 and can’t really remember anything maybe you should lay off the mind altering substances it really may be killing brain cells. If you look back on 2010 and didn’t accomplish that goal that you wanted to because you didn’t have enough time but, had enough time to complain about it you should rethink what you spend your time doing. If you spent 2010 getting your heart broken maybe you should close down your account on Match.com, everything comes in due time, and cupid doesn’t like to be rushed.
But most of all if you spent your 525,600 minutes of 2010 not making memories that will last a lifetime you may have wasted a year.
-Becks
2010 came and went but what will you say about this year when you look back on it? A wise man once said “525,600 minutes, 525,600 moments so dear, 525,600 minutes how will you measure, measure a year? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee, in inches in miles, in laugher, in strife, in 525,600 minutes, how do you measure a year in the life??”
This year for me personally was filled with ups and downs like a rollercoaster. High highs and some pretty low lows. But the point is that I remember and cherish the highs and take the lows as a lesson. Life is too short to waste a year no matter how fast it flys by.
If you look back on 2010 and can’t really remember anything maybe you should lay off the mind altering substances it really may be killing brain cells. If you look back on 2010 and didn’t accomplish that goal that you wanted to because you didn’t have enough time but, had enough time to complain about it you should rethink what you spend your time doing. If you spent 2010 getting your heart broken maybe you should close down your account on Match.com, everything comes in due time, and cupid doesn’t like to be rushed.
But most of all if you spent your 525,600 minutes of 2010 not making memories that will last a lifetime you may have wasted a year.
-Becks
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