Daily Insight: Dream Of A Billion

Everyone has their dream guy or girl. This person could be modeled after some celebrity (ahem Larenz Tate in Love Jones) or guy or girl next door, but we all have them. Some people aspire to be that dream person to everyone. They make strides to ensure that they are desired and sought after by the masses. Whether it be buying that car their ass can’t afford, putting on those mink eye lashes, or just confirming to what they think may be the dream of everyone else.

The Dream once detailed this kind of girl in his song “Fancy.” The beady eyed ballad singer said “she spends her time abroad yachts, if somewhere not tasting wine. In Paris seducing me while we dine, she’s only 23 but ahead of time, she’s the dream of a billion men…go girl.” I’m sure everyone can picture this girl he sings of, but the question is do you want to be the dream of a billion or the reality of one.

I would personally rather be the dream girl to one guy, and he be my dream than the dream of a billion. The feeling of being the dream of the one you want to be with is the best feeling in the world. And it doesn’t require you to break the bank for that new yaki weave, spend your last on a chain, or be perfect in the eyes of everyone…you just have to be yourself. That’s enough to be the reality for the one who counts.

-Becks

Daily Insight: Pull Your Skirt Down Theory

I was asked by a friend of mine to touch on a subject that has plagued the male species for some time now, but is becoming way more prevalent in this age of over sharing. Ever been scrolling through your favorite social network, and stumble upon a grown ass man crying (not literally) about something? Now, I appreciate a man expressing their feelings just as much as anyone else…but I do not appreciate a crying ass man. Allow me to elaborate.

I call this the Drake theory. We all know good old Drake, the Canadian singer/rapper/Kleenex spokesperson. He has made it common place for men to cry, whine, complain, ect over every little thing. Not only is this not attractive, it’s down right annoying.

I like to refer to the feeling I get when I see this happening more often than not as the “pull your skirt down” theory. I know we have all thought or said these phrases.Yes, I saw you call me 6 times, then text to let me know you called 6 times. Yes, I’m going to go kick it with my girls this weekend. Yes, I am finally over you…after you played me a year ago, then tried to get back into my good graces when plan B failed. Yes, not everything will go your way.

We all have come across these guys. And we all have had to say these things to them. Next time you come across one, just tell them to pull their skirt down, and get your poncho out for the waterworks that are sure to follow.

-Becks

Daily Insight: Let The Top Back

There are those days when everything going right in your life seems to just overwhelm you. Those are the days you just have to “let the top back and thank God for the day,” as Rick Ross would day. There are several days when I wake up, maybe not in the best of moods, because I personally think 7:30 is too early for any human being to open their eyes. But, as the day wears on, and I take a moment to reflect all I’ve been blessed with it can be overwhelming at times. I am extremely blessed and highly favored.

I have family that supports and loves me, I have friends that I can depend on, and push me to accomplish more. I have experiences that have shaped the person I am today. I have enough sense to make the right decisions, and when I don’t I can learn from them.

With all that said, although I don’t have a convertible…hell, I don’t even have a sun roof…I still metaphorically let the top back and thank God for the day!

-Becks

Daily Insight: Grass Ain't Greener

A wise man once said "the grass isn't always greener on the other side." People often have the tendency to see what others have from the outside and assume its so much better than what they have. But I have news, it's not that the grass isn't greener on the other side...it's the most green where you water it.

The single person sees that guy or girl in a relationship and longs to be in one themselves. Not knowing the relationship you long for is suffocating that other person and they're losing themselves in it. Why not water your grass, meaning work on yourself so when that relationship does come along it can be with the right person, and you can offer that person the best version of yourself.

You think your homie with the freelance job, making their own schedule is living the life and you want that. Why not poke your head out of that cubicle long enough to realize with hard work and consistency you can have a job you love just as much, and have stability all at the same time.

I'm saying this to say don't go peaking over that fence to your neighbors lawn at their grass. Put your focus on your own grass and water the hell out of it. You never know what kind of weeds they have over there.

-Becks