coming to an end, and the beginning of a new one is only days away! 2011 for me personally has been one of the best years of my life! Around this time everyone goes into a frenzy about what their NYE plans will be, and of course those good old resolutions.
Let me explain a few things I’ve learned over the years about NYE plans, and resolutions. First off NYE plans. I’ve done it all, from doing the absolute most, to nothing at all. The best plans are those that are solidified and inexpensive. What’s the point of being in a club with 2000 strangers? Your phone signal doesn’t work come midnight, so you can’t even wish those closest to you a Happy New Year. This year I am opting for the classic route, a get together with great friends.
Another skit that has been imbedded in our NYE psyche is “the person you spend your new year with is the one you’ll be spending the rest of the year with.” AGAIN I can tell you uhhh-unnnn this ain’t the damn truth. Of course yes, some people you spend your new years eve with will be around throughout the rest of your life. And some will be gone come January 3rd. That’s just the way that cookie crumbles.
And then of course everyone’s favorite “lie to yourself” action: a new years resolution. Whether it’s losing that freshman 15 you’ve been carrying around even 3 years after you graduated, being on time to work everyday, or my favorite a year long man-cation. Man-cation being a vacation from the opposite sex. Make sure whatever your resolution is, it remains feasible, and realistic. You’ll feel so much better when you look back on your year, believe me.
-Becks
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Daily Insight: The Perfect Ratio
Todays daily insight stems from a conversation I was having with friends about what we want in a guy. Now I know I may of touched on this topic before, but it's my blog and I can repeat myself if I want to!
Lol, now that I've gotten that out of the way: a wise man once said "don't wife her if she ain't at least 9% hoodrat." Can we all just collectively let the church say amen to this?!? My friends and I were having a discussion about a nice guy can almost be too nice, and maybe we aren't looking to have that picket fence and 2.5 kids just yet. And the hoodrats (bad boys) we are usually attracted to are not appropriate for this stage in our lives.
In comes the theory of the perfect guy, the guy who is at least a small percentage hoodrat! The man you don't have to tell not to to wear sneakers to church, but you can bring them around the homies that may still be hugging the block and he can fit right in.
Me personally, I consider myself about 21% hoodrat. I can drink with the best of them, curse like a sailor when necessary, hell I even know how to play dice, and haggle the Spanish man at the bodega to put extra bacon on my turkey sandwich for free. But on the other hand I am an intelligent, perfectly well mannered, college educated, articulate business analyst.
We all have that ratio of hoodrat to good guy we are looking for...my advice is to take that qualities you are looking for in both and keep your eyes peeled for that man. We ain't getting any younger, but we should not settle for a percentage we wouldn't think would make us happy. That man who can open your Corona with his keys, while debating politics with him will come along before you know it. Keep hope alive biddies!
-Becks
Lol, now that I've gotten that out of the way: a wise man once said "don't wife her if she ain't at least 9% hoodrat." Can we all just collectively let the church say amen to this?!? My friends and I were having a discussion about a nice guy can almost be too nice, and maybe we aren't looking to have that picket fence and 2.5 kids just yet. And the hoodrats (bad boys) we are usually attracted to are not appropriate for this stage in our lives.
In comes the theory of the perfect guy, the guy who is at least a small percentage hoodrat! The man you don't have to tell not to to wear sneakers to church, but you can bring them around the homies that may still be hugging the block and he can fit right in.
Me personally, I consider myself about 21% hoodrat. I can drink with the best of them, curse like a sailor when necessary, hell I even know how to play dice, and haggle the Spanish man at the bodega to put extra bacon on my turkey sandwich for free. But on the other hand I am an intelligent, perfectly well mannered, college educated, articulate business analyst.
We all have that ratio of hoodrat to good guy we are looking for...my advice is to take that qualities you are looking for in both and keep your eyes peeled for that man. We ain't getting any younger, but we should not settle for a percentage we wouldn't think would make us happy. That man who can open your Corona with his keys, while debating politics with him will come along before you know it. Keep hope alive biddies!
-Becks
Monday, December 12, 2011
Daily Insight: A Little Mystery
A wise man once said “a wonderful fact to reflect upon, that every human creature is constituted to be that profound secret and mystery to every other.” This ever so eloquently written quote by Charles Dickens is about the mystery of people to one another. Now I know we are all not exactly English Literature majors here so I’ll break down what Charlie is trying to say into layman’s terms as best I can.
A little mystery in a person when you are first getting to know them goes a long way. Now, I’m not talking about the person you just met is hiding their criminal record, or 5 baby mommas, or that car they were driving around in is they best friends ride. I’m speaking of the kind of mystery that has you wondering about that person all day, and what they are into. Are they into you? What do they do in their spare time ect. I shouldn't be able to tell what you ate for lunch for the past two weeks, what your grandmas first name is, and how many second cousins you have before we even have a phone conversation.
I feel as though the age of technology has taken away from that mystery. When the person you just met immediately friends you on Facebook, follows you on Twitter, adds you on LinkedIn, tracks your every move on Foursquare, and even maybe digs up that Black Planet or Myspace page you used to have, the mystery is gone with the wind. I don’t necessarily want to be able to be stalked on social networking sites. What happened to getting to know someone through conversations, and dates, and not Facebook pictures, and witty banter on twitter?
I say this to say a little mystery goes a long way. When you meet that new person let that bitch breathe a bit. (That is an expression by the way, meaning do not smother a person, not necessarily a bitch…whew…that took too long to explain.) But back to my point, we all have imaginations, and perceptions of people for a reason, don’t let the average stalkers best tool also known as social networking ruin that.
-Becks
A little mystery in a person when you are first getting to know them goes a long way. Now, I’m not talking about the person you just met is hiding their criminal record, or 5 baby mommas, or that car they were driving around in is they best friends ride. I’m speaking of the kind of mystery that has you wondering about that person all day, and what they are into. Are they into you? What do they do in their spare time ect. I shouldn't be able to tell what you ate for lunch for the past two weeks, what your grandmas first name is, and how many second cousins you have before we even have a phone conversation.
I feel as though the age of technology has taken away from that mystery. When the person you just met immediately friends you on Facebook, follows you on Twitter, adds you on LinkedIn, tracks your every move on Foursquare, and even maybe digs up that Black Planet or Myspace page you used to have, the mystery is gone with the wind. I don’t necessarily want to be able to be stalked on social networking sites. What happened to getting to know someone through conversations, and dates, and not Facebook pictures, and witty banter on twitter?
I say this to say a little mystery goes a long way. When you meet that new person let that bitch breathe a bit. (That is an expression by the way, meaning do not smother a person, not necessarily a bitch…whew…that took too long to explain.) But back to my point, we all have imaginations, and perceptions of people for a reason, don’t let the average stalkers best tool also known as social networking ruin that.
-Becks
Monday, November 28, 2011
Daily Insight: Holiday Segway Text
As we all know it is the most wonderful time of the year! It’s holiday season, Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hannukah, Kwannza, New Years ect. The day in age we live in no one takes the time to send out too many holiday cards anymore. Too much hassle, too much postage, and God forbid too much writing by hand.
Therefore people are more prone to send out that good old “happy (insert holiday) to you and yours..” mass text. Now this is completely acceptable and even puts a slight smile on my face when I receive these from family and friends. What I will say though is BEWARE of the holiday segway text.
We all know it when we see it…the good old “hey happy (insert holiday), long time no speak how are you?” When this comes across your smart phone screen from an old flame or biddie you should automatically be thinking RED FLAG, FOUL ON THE PLAY, and BIDDIES AND BREADCRUMBS. This is the segway holiday text ladies and gentlemen. The holiday is a reason to reach out, but the long time no see comment is like the cookies and milk left out for Santa. That person knows neither one of you can resist.
It is masked as a harmless happy holiday mass text, yet it is personalized for you. And you are thinking nothing of it. 25 texts and a jug of spiked egg nog later, you are busting out old holiday photos of the Kwannza’s you guys spent together and listening to Boyz II Men Christmas Interpretations, and wearing that hideous sweater they got you. So next time you get a personalized holiday segway text do yourself a favor. Send the warm wishes back, then ask Santa for a new phone number. No one wants to get caught up in that holiday cheer.
-Becks
Therefore people are more prone to send out that good old “happy (insert holiday) to you and yours..” mass text. Now this is completely acceptable and even puts a slight smile on my face when I receive these from family and friends. What I will say though is BEWARE of the holiday segway text.
We all know it when we see it…the good old “hey happy (insert holiday), long time no speak how are you?” When this comes across your smart phone screen from an old flame or biddie you should automatically be thinking RED FLAG, FOUL ON THE PLAY, and BIDDIES AND BREADCRUMBS. This is the segway holiday text ladies and gentlemen. The holiday is a reason to reach out, but the long time no see comment is like the cookies and milk left out for Santa. That person knows neither one of you can resist.
It is masked as a harmless happy holiday mass text, yet it is personalized for you. And you are thinking nothing of it. 25 texts and a jug of spiked egg nog later, you are busting out old holiday photos of the Kwannza’s you guys spent together and listening to Boyz II Men Christmas Interpretations, and wearing that hideous sweater they got you. So next time you get a personalized holiday segway text do yourself a favor. Send the warm wishes back, then ask Santa for a new phone number. No one wants to get caught up in that holiday cheer.
-Becks
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Daily Insight: Place Settings
“Oh…well hello there November, when the hell did you get here?” That is what I woke up and asked myself this morning. This year is flying by, and I need it to slow its roll.
November is one of my favorite months though, strictly because my inner fat girl can not wait for Thanksgiving. It is the only holiday where gluttony is not only acceptable it is encouraged. Who you invite to break bread or a turkey leg if you will this Thanksgiving can be a metaphor for life almost.
We will all invite some people to Thanksgiving dinner this year, as we do every year. Just be careful who you set that place setting for at your table in a couple of weeks. Everyone that you invite to your table should be bringing something with them. I’ll be damned if you are about to eat at my table and don’t even bring so much as a bottle of wine, or an apple pie.
Not everyone is going to be able to bring their own Waterford china but damn at least a couple of extra napkins would be appreciated. Turkey isn’t cheap, and for that matter neither is that place setting at your table. So be selective of who you invite to your table this Thanksgiving.
I know whomever I invite will be bringing my favorite dessert, some wine and will most likely be bringing home a few turkey sandwiches with them...and I’ll be the one making them…make sure you can say the same.
-Becks
November is one of my favorite months though, strictly because my inner fat girl can not wait for Thanksgiving. It is the only holiday where gluttony is not only acceptable it is encouraged. Who you invite to break bread or a turkey leg if you will this Thanksgiving can be a metaphor for life almost.
We will all invite some people to Thanksgiving dinner this year, as we do every year. Just be careful who you set that place setting for at your table in a couple of weeks. Everyone that you invite to your table should be bringing something with them. I’ll be damned if you are about to eat at my table and don’t even bring so much as a bottle of wine, or an apple pie.
Not everyone is going to be able to bring their own Waterford china but damn at least a couple of extra napkins would be appreciated. Turkey isn’t cheap, and for that matter neither is that place setting at your table. So be selective of who you invite to your table this Thanksgiving.
I know whomever I invite will be bringing my favorite dessert, some wine and will most likely be bringing home a few turkey sandwiches with them...and I’ll be the one making them…make sure you can say the same.
-Becks
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Daily Insight: A Woman Should Have
A wise man once said a lot of wise things in this one particular poem..but one couplet really stuck out to me. A wise man once said “A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .. a youth she's content to leave behind..... a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.... a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry..”
I feel as though I’ve been blessed enough to have all of those. Being 24 it may be encroaching upon that time to leave my youth I’m so content with to leave behind. Lord knows I’ve had a juicy past, not Maury “you are not the Father juicy..” but a “what happens in Vegas may pop up on the internet and you have to curse your friends out to delete it..” past. Damn sure don’t own a cordless drill, but I’ve always believed all you need is a hammer…if you hit something hard enough it’ll most likely start to work..I mean come one I'm no Bob Vila or anything.. If I didn’t own at least one black lacy bra I’d be most likely wearing Monday draws on a Wednesday, and no one would ever want to see them. (Dont act like y'all don't remember days of the week draws).
And I have too many friends to count on one hand who make me laugh, and just as many who will let me cry…especially after a few mimosas.
I hope we are all as blessed to be that woman one day.
-Becks
I feel as though I’ve been blessed enough to have all of those. Being 24 it may be encroaching upon that time to leave my youth I’m so content with to leave behind. Lord knows I’ve had a juicy past, not Maury “you are not the Father juicy..” but a “what happens in Vegas may pop up on the internet and you have to curse your friends out to delete it..” past. Damn sure don’t own a cordless drill, but I’ve always believed all you need is a hammer…if you hit something hard enough it’ll most likely start to work..I mean come one I'm no Bob Vila or anything.. If I didn’t own at least one black lacy bra I’d be most likely wearing Monday draws on a Wednesday, and no one would ever want to see them. (Dont act like y'all don't remember days of the week draws).
And I have too many friends to count on one hand who make me laugh, and just as many who will let me cry…especially after a few mimosas.
I hope we are all as blessed to be that woman one day.
-Becks
Monday, October 24, 2011
Daily Insight: Bat Signal
Yes, we all know it’s getting cold outside. Scarves are being bundled, peacoats are being dry cleaned, wool socks are coming out of storage, and biddies are being cuffed. With this comes a phenomenon I like to refer to as the bat signal theory.
We all know the story of Batman, or at least I would hope, if not you must not of had much of a childhood. Anyway, whenever Batman needed to be contacted the Gotham police department would light up the sky with the bat signal, and Batman would come swooping in from some random shadow.
Being cuffed up with a new joint is like a bat signal to every old joint you ever used to talk to. I don’t know how it happens, but it seems as though every time you start to like someone new the old joints come swooping in from every corner they were lurking in.
Not sure if it’s the new random sappy Facebook statuses you’re putting up, or the new pep in your step, or the fact that you’re not out on the scene being single and mingling as much…but old biddies can sense it all. Remember Batman doesn’t come out of nowhere without being called. So if this cuffing season, you realize your bat signal is shining a little too bright, go ahead and unscrew the light bulb on that bitch.
-Becks
We all know the story of Batman, or at least I would hope, if not you must not of had much of a childhood. Anyway, whenever Batman needed to be contacted the Gotham police department would light up the sky with the bat signal, and Batman would come swooping in from some random shadow.
Being cuffed up with a new joint is like a bat signal to every old joint you ever used to talk to. I don’t know how it happens, but it seems as though every time you start to like someone new the old joints come swooping in from every corner they were lurking in.
Not sure if it’s the new random sappy Facebook statuses you’re putting up, or the new pep in your step, or the fact that you’re not out on the scene being single and mingling as much…but old biddies can sense it all. Remember Batman doesn’t come out of nowhere without being called. So if this cuffing season, you realize your bat signal is shining a little too bright, go ahead and unscrew the light bulb on that bitch.
-Becks
Friday, October 7, 2011
Daily Insight: Seasonal
If you haven’t been able to tell by now I have a pretty dry sense of humor. And recently I think I have accomplished the once impossible….I have found a series that caters to my exact sense of humor. If you haven’t seen the web series entitled “The Misadventures of An Awkward Black Girl,” I HIGHLY suggest you google that shit. It is hilarious!
With that being said a quote from this weeks episode of the series struck me as particularly funny yet true. The best friend of the hilariously awkward main character Jae had a revelation: “dating multiple men is like trying seasonal lattes at Starbucks, they’re not going to be around forever.” Jae (the main character) then asked herself “do I have to try eggnog to know I prefer the caramel latte?” She then reasoned with herself “na that’s how bitches end up on Maury.”
Now as soon as I caught my breath from laughing so damn hard, I thought about that concept. It is very true that biddies are seasonal just like Starbucks drinks. We all know this, so why do we act like we can only have one specialty drink per season?
If you want to try the Pumpkin Spice, the Apple Cider, and the Hot Chocolate all in one season who is someone to judge?? These damn drinks are not going to be around forever. Maybe you need to sip all three to decide come Christmas which one you’re going to be addressing that new cologne or that Louie bag to.
But, much like these seasonal drinks biddies should be consumed in moderation. You wouldn’t have a Pumpkin Spice and an Apple Cider in the same day would you? You wouldn’t bring biddie number one to Thanksgiving dinner than invite biddie number two for seconds and dessert, correct? As Jae from Awkward Black Girl pointed out “that’s how bitches end up on Maury.”
With that being said drink up my friends, the seasonal lattes are upon us, and so are the seasonal biddies.
-Becks
With that being said a quote from this weeks episode of the series struck me as particularly funny yet true. The best friend of the hilariously awkward main character Jae had a revelation: “dating multiple men is like trying seasonal lattes at Starbucks, they’re not going to be around forever.” Jae (the main character) then asked herself “do I have to try eggnog to know I prefer the caramel latte?” She then reasoned with herself “na that’s how bitches end up on Maury.”
Now as soon as I caught my breath from laughing so damn hard, I thought about that concept. It is very true that biddies are seasonal just like Starbucks drinks. We all know this, so why do we act like we can only have one specialty drink per season?
If you want to try the Pumpkin Spice, the Apple Cider, and the Hot Chocolate all in one season who is someone to judge?? These damn drinks are not going to be around forever. Maybe you need to sip all three to decide come Christmas which one you’re going to be addressing that new cologne or that Louie bag to.
But, much like these seasonal drinks biddies should be consumed in moderation. You wouldn’t have a Pumpkin Spice and an Apple Cider in the same day would you? You wouldn’t bring biddie number one to Thanksgiving dinner than invite biddie number two for seconds and dessert, correct? As Jae from Awkward Black Girl pointed out “that’s how bitches end up on Maury.”
With that being said drink up my friends, the seasonal lattes are upon us, and so are the seasonal biddies.
-Becks
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Daily Insight: Wise Words From A Decent Man
A wise man once said: "Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by Dogma-which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
-RIP Steve Jobs
-Becks
-RIP Steve Jobs
-Becks
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Daily Insight: Detox
Ladies and gentlemen it’s detox time. No, not like Dr. Dre’s phantom album is coming out, more like “I’m sitting my ass still for a little while.” Something kind of weird happens when you have the kind of summer I had. You get tired. I mean like “damn I did too much in two months” kind of tired, not the “I need a nap tired.” I have been on 12 flights since April, and only Lil Baby Jesus knows how many other cities on road trips in between there.
And so I’ve come to the conclusion that everyone, even me needs a detox period. Some time to themselves to just chill out and regroup. With that being said, go ahead and embark on your own detox. Whether it be not raging for a month, or using up all those sick days you’ve been accumulating to sit at home and watch a the ID channel all day, or even do a whole bunch of nothing. I will promise you one thing. Come homecoming in late October I’m going to be back on these streets harder than Ortiz hit that mat after Mayweather sucker punched him on Saturday. :)
-Becks
And so I’ve come to the conclusion that everyone, even me needs a detox period. Some time to themselves to just chill out and regroup. With that being said, go ahead and embark on your own detox. Whether it be not raging for a month, or using up all those sick days you’ve been accumulating to sit at home and watch a the ID channel all day, or even do a whole bunch of nothing. I will promise you one thing. Come homecoming in late October I’m going to be back on these streets harder than Ortiz hit that mat after Mayweather sucker punched him on Saturday. :)
-Becks
Thursday, September 1, 2011
Daily Insight: Open Book
Everyone has heard the phrase “don’t judge by it’s cover.” This metaphorical book could be a place, a situation, a person or just a damn book…but it rings true regardless. Of course for the purpose of me talking shit we will use this metaphor to refer to a person.
Let me just go ahead and say biddies are like books, you come across a lot in your lifetime. You scan a few, you read the back cover or even the inside flap, you look up some reviews, but you don’t read all of them. Everyone who reads avidly or in this case is single and ready to mingle, has a preferred genre, but let me go ahead and break down what you could be getting yourself into with these different genres…
You have your mysteries. Of course who didn’t like a good old James Hardy book?? Don’t tell me I was the only geek reading those things when I was younger. But I digress. A mystery biddie is always elusive as hell, pops in and out of your life, and you find it intriguing cause your ass always liked to solve the mystery. Well newsflash you ain’t Scooby Doo and this isn’t fiction. In real life that biddie is most like hiding something like a rap sheet or a few kids. I’m just saying, mysteries are fun on paper, but not in real life.
Then of course you have your romance novels, you know the ones with a half naked man looking like Fabio on the cover. If this is your preferred read, you may usually go for the “say girl can I be yo slave” Larenz Tate in Love Jones type biddies. Again this is all well and good, but unfortunately those are usually a dime a dozen, and if you do find one make sure he can grow some hair on his chest cause he may be softer than a pillow pet.
And finally you have the hood classics, the Coldest Winter Ever’s, the Flyy Girl’s, and of course the Zane’s of the book world. If you usually go for these kinds of biddies most likely he has been hugging the block a bit too long, and most likely can’t even hold an intellectual conversation with you about the books you read. Again, I’m just saying.
I say all of this to say, that when you decide to close a specific chapter of a book make sure it’s closed for good. Don’t leave it on the shelf to go peeking back a couple of months later. Cause we all know what the ending will be.
-Becks
Let me just go ahead and say biddies are like books, you come across a lot in your lifetime. You scan a few, you read the back cover or even the inside flap, you look up some reviews, but you don’t read all of them. Everyone who reads avidly or in this case is single and ready to mingle, has a preferred genre, but let me go ahead and break down what you could be getting yourself into with these different genres…
You have your mysteries. Of course who didn’t like a good old James Hardy book?? Don’t tell me I was the only geek reading those things when I was younger. But I digress. A mystery biddie is always elusive as hell, pops in and out of your life, and you find it intriguing cause your ass always liked to solve the mystery. Well newsflash you ain’t Scooby Doo and this isn’t fiction. In real life that biddie is most like hiding something like a rap sheet or a few kids. I’m just saying, mysteries are fun on paper, but not in real life.
Then of course you have your romance novels, you know the ones with a half naked man looking like Fabio on the cover. If this is your preferred read, you may usually go for the “say girl can I be yo slave” Larenz Tate in Love Jones type biddies. Again this is all well and good, but unfortunately those are usually a dime a dozen, and if you do find one make sure he can grow some hair on his chest cause he may be softer than a pillow pet.
And finally you have the hood classics, the Coldest Winter Ever’s, the Flyy Girl’s, and of course the Zane’s of the book world. If you usually go for these kinds of biddies most likely he has been hugging the block a bit too long, and most likely can’t even hold an intellectual conversation with you about the books you read. Again, I’m just saying.
I say all of this to say, that when you decide to close a specific chapter of a book make sure it’s closed for good. Don’t leave it on the shelf to go peeking back a couple of months later. Cause we all know what the ending will be.
-Becks
Friday, August 19, 2011
Daily Insight: Let That Biddie Build
Everything in life has to have some kind of build up, anticipation, crescendo if you will. This is especially true when it comes to matters of romance. Once again I draw inspiration for this rant from one of my good friends.
A wise man once said “one date does not equal sexy pic status.” I don’t know how many times over I could “amen,” “mm-hmm,” and “ain’t that the truth” this statement. I use this example to say that you must let the beat build if you will when dealing with the opposite sex (or same sex, I don’t judge).
Do you expect the epic fight scene in an action movie to come right after the opening line? Do you expect the breakdown of your favorite Beyonce song to come after she hits that first note? Do you expect your promotion at work to come right after your first day cause you didn’t fall asleep in training? Nope I didn’t think so…
So why, fellas would you expect homegirl to give up the panty draws after you pick her up in your Honda Civic and take her to Red Lobster once. Ladies don’t expect him to drop to one knee with a big ass ring cause he sent you one “good morning” text. Dudes don’t expect for me to “surprise” you with some for your eyes only pictures, if ya’ll haven’t even exchanged middle names and hobbies yet.
Things such as this need time to build up, to develop. No one said the wait would be easy but it’s probably damn sure worth it.
-Becks
A wise man once said “one date does not equal sexy pic status.” I don’t know how many times over I could “amen,” “mm-hmm,” and “ain’t that the truth” this statement. I use this example to say that you must let the beat build if you will when dealing with the opposite sex (or same sex, I don’t judge).
Do you expect the epic fight scene in an action movie to come right after the opening line? Do you expect the breakdown of your favorite Beyonce song to come after she hits that first note? Do you expect your promotion at work to come right after your first day cause you didn’t fall asleep in training? Nope I didn’t think so…
So why, fellas would you expect homegirl to give up the panty draws after you pick her up in your Honda Civic and take her to Red Lobster once. Ladies don’t expect him to drop to one knee with a big ass ring cause he sent you one “good morning” text. Dudes don’t expect for me to “surprise” you with some for your eyes only pictures, if ya’ll haven’t even exchanged middle names and hobbies yet.
Things such as this need time to build up, to develop. No one said the wait would be easy but it’s probably damn sure worth it.
-Becks
Friday, July 29, 2011
Daily Insight: The Art Of The Skit
I learned a lot of things during my tenure at the greatest school in the world. A lot of those were life lessons; one I cherish a bit more than all of the others. And that my friend is the art of the “skit.”
The art of the skit is basically bs’ing 101. Meaning using your quick thinking and poker face to get yourself out of a lot of potentially asinine situations. I like to think of myself as having a Doctorate, a black belt, a certification, and a hood pass all in the art of the skit. Believe me it’s taken me a long way in life.
Whether it’s telling a job you’re traveling abroad the summer after you graduate and can’t start until September so you can have your summer off. Or talking your way down to the front of the Rick Ross concert so close you can see the sweat dripping down his beard (eww). Even getting to the airport 30 minutes before your flight leaves and somehow still making it through security and on the plane in time.
The art of the skit has to be taught by example that’s the way the best learn. But be careful you don’t want to become the boy who cried wolf. That one person who constantly gets the side eye from the people you attempt to skit because you’ve used an excuse one too many times. There’s only so many times your Mom can be having surgery and needs someone to drive her from the doctor so you have to leave work 4 hours early. As Jay said “we don’t believe you…you need more people.”
With that being said I’ll continue to use my 12 vacation days to equal out to 14 actual vacations. Happy skitting my friends. J
-Becks
The art of the skit is basically bs’ing 101. Meaning using your quick thinking and poker face to get yourself out of a lot of potentially asinine situations. I like to think of myself as having a Doctorate, a black belt, a certification, and a hood pass all in the art of the skit. Believe me it’s taken me a long way in life.
Whether it’s telling a job you’re traveling abroad the summer after you graduate and can’t start until September so you can have your summer off. Or talking your way down to the front of the Rick Ross concert so close you can see the sweat dripping down his beard (eww). Even getting to the airport 30 minutes before your flight leaves and somehow still making it through security and on the plane in time.
The art of the skit has to be taught by example that’s the way the best learn. But be careful you don’t want to become the boy who cried wolf. That one person who constantly gets the side eye from the people you attempt to skit because you’ve used an excuse one too many times. There’s only so many times your Mom can be having surgery and needs someone to drive her from the doctor so you have to leave work 4 hours early. As Jay said “we don’t believe you…you need more people.”
With that being said I’ll continue to use my 12 vacation days to equal out to 14 actual vacations. Happy skitting my friends. J
-Becks
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Daily Insight: Run On Sentence
Beyonce recently compared love to algebra saying “I don’t know much about algebra but I know 1+1=2.” Although that wasn’t really algebra more like arithmetic Bey, I get where she was going with it. With that being said my friends came up with another elementary metaphor for love that rang too true to me today. Who knew a bunch of 20 something’s could be so insightful?
A wise man once said “love is like a run on sentence, there will be many comas, many ellipses (…), and many exclamation points but only a few periods. Those periods are going to be those people that come into your life and make you stop in your tracks. Now for those of us that weren’t really paying attention in English class grades 5-12, let me break down what I mean by the rest of the punctuation I mentioned in love’s run on sentence.
A coma will be a biddie that will come along and maybe make you pause for a second, you know let them take you on a few dates, share a few funny moments, hell maybe even a peck, but they are just a pause. They are there just long enough for you to catch your breath and to continue on with your sentence. I know we all know these. They are a dime a dozen.
Then there are the ellipses. An ellipse is a fancy word for those dot dot dot (…) biddies. I had to go ahead and use a quote from the very trusty Urban Dictionary to truly define these biddies. The Urban Dictionary defines an ellipse triple dot of awkwardness a way to say that you're not really sure, or lets just not talk about it. How many of us have felt that way about a biddie after we’ve truly gotten to know them. It’s the “ok then…” kinda biddies. The ones that you just hope will get the message after you stop picking up their phone calls…
And of course there are those exclamation point biddies!!! Now I can admit in real life I am a serial over-exclamation point user. I use about a million of them when only one is necessary. These are used to describe those biddies that come into your life out of nowhere and this whirlwind romance you have is just amazing, but just as quickly as they came they are gone. Those biddies are fleeting feelings that feel great in the moment but are probably over used.
And then of course there is the period. The biddie that makes you want to stop everything to be with them. The period is the proverbial end of the run-on sentence of love. Of course we will all have a couple of periods in our sentence, the trick is to recognize when one comes along and make sure when you begin a new sentence you know how to punctuate properly.
-Becks
A wise man once said “love is like a run on sentence, there will be many comas, many ellipses (…), and many exclamation points but only a few periods. Those periods are going to be those people that come into your life and make you stop in your tracks. Now for those of us that weren’t really paying attention in English class grades 5-12, let me break down what I mean by the rest of the punctuation I mentioned in love’s run on sentence.
A coma will be a biddie that will come along and maybe make you pause for a second, you know let them take you on a few dates, share a few funny moments, hell maybe even a peck, but they are just a pause. They are there just long enough for you to catch your breath and to continue on with your sentence. I know we all know these. They are a dime a dozen.
Then there are the ellipses. An ellipse is a fancy word for those dot dot dot (…) biddies. I had to go ahead and use a quote from the very trusty Urban Dictionary to truly define these biddies. The Urban Dictionary defines an ellipse triple dot of awkwardness a way to say that you're not really sure, or lets just not talk about it. How many of us have felt that way about a biddie after we’ve truly gotten to know them. It’s the “ok then…” kinda biddies. The ones that you just hope will get the message after you stop picking up their phone calls…
And of course there are those exclamation point biddies!!! Now I can admit in real life I am a serial over-exclamation point user. I use about a million of them when only one is necessary. These are used to describe those biddies that come into your life out of nowhere and this whirlwind romance you have is just amazing, but just as quickly as they came they are gone. Those biddies are fleeting feelings that feel great in the moment but are probably over used.
And then of course there is the period. The biddie that makes you want to stop everything to be with them. The period is the proverbial end of the run-on sentence of love. Of course we will all have a couple of periods in our sentence, the trick is to recognize when one comes along and make sure when you begin a new sentence you know how to punctuate properly.
-Becks
Friday, July 8, 2011
Daily Insight: Summer Time
In case you've been living under a rock and haven't noticed it's summer time. Less clothes, more sweated out roots, and mandals everywhere. Summer also brings out the biddingtons. Yes they come from far and wide, hood BBQs, rooftops, and all white parties. Now I'm gonna go ahead and hit you guys with the male and female perspective of what this means.
On the male side a wise man once said "when the tops come down chicks tops come down." Yes indeed they do. Now I'm not saying this in the literal sense like people are walking around flashing each other like it's the Freak Nik but let's be real things do get quite hectic in the summer. Less clothes equals more thirst and those guys are gonna be doing what they can to ensure at least some tops are coming down.
Now on the female side of things all these biddies are falling like Summer Rain *Carl Thomas voice*. A wise man once said "when it's raining men you don't run for cover you get your rain boots and splash around in the puddles!"
Summer time brings a lot things and makes a lot of memories. So fellas make sure you let some tops down and ladies make sure you splash around in them damn puddles!! I know I damn sure will be!!
-Becks
On the male side a wise man once said "when the tops come down chicks tops come down." Yes indeed they do. Now I'm not saying this in the literal sense like people are walking around flashing each other like it's the Freak Nik but let's be real things do get quite hectic in the summer. Less clothes equals more thirst and those guys are gonna be doing what they can to ensure at least some tops are coming down.
Now on the female side of things all these biddies are falling like Summer Rain *Carl Thomas voice*. A wise man once said "when it's raining men you don't run for cover you get your rain boots and splash around in the puddles!"
Summer time brings a lot things and makes a lot of memories. So fellas make sure you let some tops down and ladies make sure you splash around in them damn puddles!! I know I damn sure will be!!
-Becks
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Daily Insight: "Na Because"
So as I sit on this plane the size of a clown car on my way back from my second business trip and 4th state in 2 weeks I have come to yet another conclusion....
2011 is not the year of "na because" and when I say "na because" I mean no excuses. "Na because" is a bullshit artists way of saying I'd love to do these things but I'm holding myself back.
I made a resolution for myself this past new years and no it wasn't to start eating more veggies, or stop drinking or anything like that..it was to take a trip a month for the entire year of 2011. And I've fulfilled my resolution thus far. When I get off this plane I'll be turning around and flying to Vegas for the weekend to wyle the desert out with my friends.
Now I know not everyone is in a position to do things like that in their lives but the point of 2011 not being the year of "na because" is to realize life is too damn short to make 7272773 excuses when there's something you really wanna do.
It doesn't cost anything to just straight up and down kick it, or to let that biddie spend his money on dinner and drinks for you, or you to do whatever your heart desires. So next time that opportunity arises I damn sure better not hear y'all saying "na because"
2011 is not the year of "na because" and when I say "na because" I mean no excuses. "Na because" is a bullshit artists way of saying I'd love to do these things but I'm holding myself back.
I made a resolution for myself this past new years and no it wasn't to start eating more veggies, or stop drinking or anything like that..it was to take a trip a month for the entire year of 2011. And I've fulfilled my resolution thus far. When I get off this plane I'll be turning around and flying to Vegas for the weekend to wyle the desert out with my friends.
Now I know not everyone is in a position to do things like that in their lives but the point of 2011 not being the year of "na because" is to realize life is too damn short to make 7272773 excuses when there's something you really wanna do.
It doesn't cost anything to just straight up and down kick it, or to let that biddie spend his money on dinner and drinks for you, or you to do whatever your heart desires. So next time that opportunity arises I damn sure better not hear y'all saying "na because"
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Daily Insight: Setting Up Shop
Anyone that knows me knows I am a big daydreamer, my mind tends to wander off a lot. And anyone that knows me knows I am also very granola as my friends like to classify it. Meaning I love me a good love song, romantic comedy ect ect, now don’t get me wrong I’m not up burning incense and writing poetry but who doesn’t appreciate a damn good love song?
Only problem with the combination of the two tends to get a bit hectic. Now imagine you’re at your desk minding you business on a Wednesday afternoon and that one song comes on that gets your mind wandering. That can cause what I’ve classified as swan diving into your feelings. I mean straight up listening to a song that takes you back to specific situation, person, ect.
This may not always be bad thing but all I am going to say is once you’re in your feelings don’t set up shop. Meaning, don’t let that thought or memory of a person or situation have you rocking back and forth singing “Unbreak My Heart” all day.
Memories are good and of course we all are going to slip back into those feelings. I know I have, it’s a slippery slope, but just remember whether you accidentally slip back in or cannon ball into them joints don’t stay too long. Cause there’s no room in the past for the future.
-Becks
Only problem with the combination of the two tends to get a bit hectic. Now imagine you’re at your desk minding you business on a Wednesday afternoon and that one song comes on that gets your mind wandering. That can cause what I’ve classified as swan diving into your feelings. I mean straight up listening to a song that takes you back to specific situation, person, ect.
This may not always be bad thing but all I am going to say is once you’re in your feelings don’t set up shop. Meaning, don’t let that thought or memory of a person or situation have you rocking back and forth singing “Unbreak My Heart” all day.
Memories are good and of course we all are going to slip back into those feelings. I know I have, it’s a slippery slope, but just remember whether you accidentally slip back in or cannon ball into them joints don’t stay too long. Cause there’s no room in the past for the future.
-Becks
Friday, May 27, 2011
Daily Insight: The Alpha and The Omega
The Alpha and the Omega as many people know are commonly known as references to the beginning and the end. I was doing some reflecting on the events of 2011 and hell even the events of the past 24 years of my life. Every event I've ever been involved in is pretty damn classic! Now I'm not the stingy type so I'll share with you guys my interpretation of the the makings of a great event...
Let me start by saying no event worth being an event has only an Alpha and an Omega it has 3 equally important parts!! These parts are the hype, the event, and the recap.
Simply put that's what it comes down to...no event is an event without 75 of your closest friends and associates hyping it for at least 3 weeks in advance. For instance the last couple of classic events have been referred to with hashtags all over the world wide web. For those of you who don't know a hastag is a symbol put in front of a word or phrase on twitter that everyone referring to this word or phrase uses. For example when 30 of my friends decided to take over 5 villas in the Poconos for a weekend DJ and all we referred to the weekend as #Pocs2011...from the moment that hashtag was incepted the hype began. Another classic event that just took place was the 90's party I had for my birthday last weekend. For a month leading up to the party all things said in reference to the party used #beckys90sparty. The hype is necessary and my friends know how to do it so well!!
The event is the next part of this formula...you can have all the hype in the world but the event MUST live up to the hype! For example the party bus we hosted for Howard Homecoming 2010 was a damn event led up to all the hype!
And finally is the recap...theres a couple different types of recaps. There's the call your girlfriends the next morning with the "giiiiiirllllllll what happened last night" recap. Theres the flipping through your mental Rolodex and piecing together the night. And then there's my personal favorite the photographi and video evidence. A picture is worth a thousand words and if the event is as good as it's supposed to be there will be a hundred thousand words.
So as I drive down to Ocean City for another event I'm sure it'll live up to the hype and I'll have the memories and evidence to prove it!
-Becks
Let me start by saying no event worth being an event has only an Alpha and an Omega it has 3 equally important parts!! These parts are the hype, the event, and the recap.
Simply put that's what it comes down to...no event is an event without 75 of your closest friends and associates hyping it for at least 3 weeks in advance. For instance the last couple of classic events have been referred to with hashtags all over the world wide web. For those of you who don't know a hastag is a symbol put in front of a word or phrase on twitter that everyone referring to this word or phrase uses. For example when 30 of my friends decided to take over 5 villas in the Poconos for a weekend DJ and all we referred to the weekend as #Pocs2011...from the moment that hashtag was incepted the hype began. Another classic event that just took place was the 90's party I had for my birthday last weekend. For a month leading up to the party all things said in reference to the party used #beckys90sparty. The hype is necessary and my friends know how to do it so well!!
The event is the next part of this formula...you can have all the hype in the world but the event MUST live up to the hype! For example the party bus we hosted for Howard Homecoming 2010 was a damn event led up to all the hype!
And finally is the recap...theres a couple different types of recaps. There's the call your girlfriends the next morning with the "giiiiiirllllllll what happened last night" recap. Theres the flipping through your mental Rolodex and piecing together the night. And then there's my personal favorite the photographi and video evidence. A picture is worth a thousand words and if the event is as good as it's supposed to be there will be a hundred thousand words.
So as I drive down to Ocean City for another event I'm sure it'll live up to the hype and I'll have the memories and evidence to prove it!
-Becks
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Daily Insight: I Love My Damn Friends
I know I talk about my friends a lot on this blog, but that’s because I truly love each and every one of them. This weekend was my 24th birthday, and was also a true reminder of how classic and hilarious each and every one of my friends is. Friends I can say I’ve known for 19 of my 24 years and new friends I can say will be doing the electric slide at my wedding, and will be referred to as Auntie and Uncle so and so when my kids are born.
Not only did friends come from DC, Jersey, and all over New York to come celebrate my birthday with me. They participated in one of the most classic ideas I’ve ever had. I had a 90’s themed birthday party. I’m talking Queen Pen blasting through the speakers, baby hairs gelled down, combat boots a stomping, windbreakers a swishing, brown lip liner a lining, hammer pants swaying the in wind., 40 ounces being drank, chew sticks being chewed, and the pepper seed being perfected.
I say all of this to say I thank God every single day I am blessed enough to surround myself with people who do not take themselves too seriously at all. My friends are college gradates, parents, professionals but absolute CLOWNS. And I love each and every one of them for it. These memories I cherish forever, and thanks to them I will continue to wake up every morning laughing my ass off.
-Becks
Not only did friends come from DC, Jersey, and all over New York to come celebrate my birthday with me. They participated in one of the most classic ideas I’ve ever had. I had a 90’s themed birthday party. I’m talking Queen Pen blasting through the speakers, baby hairs gelled down, combat boots a stomping, windbreakers a swishing, brown lip liner a lining, hammer pants swaying the in wind., 40 ounces being drank, chew sticks being chewed, and the pepper seed being perfected.
I say all of this to say I thank God every single day I am blessed enough to surround myself with people who do not take themselves too seriously at all. My friends are college gradates, parents, professionals but absolute CLOWNS. And I love each and every one of them for it. These memories I cherish forever, and thanks to them I will continue to wake up every morning laughing my ass off.
-Becks
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Daily Insight: Bucket List
I’ve come to many conclusions throughout my almost 24 years on this earth. One of those things I’ve concluded is life is damn short. There are many things I want to do and accomplish in my lifetime. Some may call this a bucket list of sorts. Things you want to do before you kick the bucket, or get called to glory, or visit the upper room….you guys get my point.
A wise man once said “if you had 24 hours to live just think where would you go, what would you do, who would you screw, and who would you wanna notify or would your ass deny that your ass about to die.” Now, I’m not sure Ma$e would be the most prolific man to ask this question but it’s something that we should all think about.
If you knew you had a certain amount of time left on this earth what would you want to scratch off your bucket list?? I know I’ve accomplished a lot on my list already but I still have a long way to go. Just some advice though….
If at the top of your bucket list is “making it thunderstorm in the club” you may want to rethink some priorities. If at the top of your bucket list is “having a million followers on twitter” again you may want to put the computer down and get out a bit more. If at the top of your bucket list is to trap homeboy into a relationship, you need to stop reading all those hood classics and get a grip.
I say this to say, life is short people I’ve seen many of my friends go before their time tragically. So before you kick that bucket make sure you start kicking some things off that bucket list.
-Becks
A wise man once said “if you had 24 hours to live just think where would you go, what would you do, who would you screw, and who would you wanna notify or would your ass deny that your ass about to die.” Now, I’m not sure Ma$e would be the most prolific man to ask this question but it’s something that we should all think about.
If you knew you had a certain amount of time left on this earth what would you want to scratch off your bucket list?? I know I’ve accomplished a lot on my list already but I still have a long way to go. Just some advice though….
If at the top of your bucket list is “making it thunderstorm in the club” you may want to rethink some priorities. If at the top of your bucket list is “having a million followers on twitter” again you may want to put the computer down and get out a bit more. If at the top of your bucket list is to trap homeboy into a relationship, you need to stop reading all those hood classics and get a grip.
I say this to say, life is short people I’ve seen many of my friends go before their time tragically. So before you kick that bucket make sure you start kicking some things off that bucket list.
-Becks
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Daily Insight: Beating Around The Bush
I’d like to consider myself pretty open, and honest and pretty much to the point. So I never quite understood when people tip toe around a subject like the damn Pink Panther. A wise man once said “stop beating around the bush and just cut the grass.” Now of course this wise man was a friend of mine, the source of most of my revelations in life.
If you are crushing on a biddie and you see said biddie a lot why are you over there living your life like Alcia Keys in the beginning of “You Don’t Know My Name.” Guess what they will never know your name unless you plan on wearing a nametag everyday. Go ahead and speak up, say something throw them a little glance or a half smile you’ll never know what will happen.
If you’re sitting at work everyday huffing and puffing cause you feel as though you’re doing everyone else’s work plus your own, what will making some smart remarks under your breath in your cube do?? You better speak up…closed mouths never get fed…Ace Hood said so.
If everytime you go to the Dominicans you leave with more grease in your hair than you came in with why aren’t you saying something to Mami. I’m quick to hit them with the “no grease” finger wave like Dikembe Mutumbo.
I say this to say nothing is ever going to be accomplished if you are constantly beating around that bush. You better get your weed wacker out and open your mouth.
-Becks
If you are crushing on a biddie and you see said biddie a lot why are you over there living your life like Alcia Keys in the beginning of “You Don’t Know My Name.” Guess what they will never know your name unless you plan on wearing a nametag everyday. Go ahead and speak up, say something throw them a little glance or a half smile you’ll never know what will happen.
If you’re sitting at work everyday huffing and puffing cause you feel as though you’re doing everyone else’s work plus your own, what will making some smart remarks under your breath in your cube do?? You better speak up…closed mouths never get fed…Ace Hood said so.
If everytime you go to the Dominicans you leave with more grease in your hair than you came in with why aren’t you saying something to Mami. I’m quick to hit them with the “no grease” finger wave like Dikembe Mutumbo.
I say this to say nothing is ever going to be accomplished if you are constantly beating around that bush. You better get your weed wacker out and open your mouth.
-Becks
Monday, April 11, 2011
Daily Insight: Fishing
The law of attraction is a pretty funny thing. We all know the phrase opposites attract, and of course some people just don’t mix. But I’m a firm believer you will always attract the kinds of people you are supposed to.
I feel as though throughout my life I have always befriended people that compliment me in so many different ways. After all you are the company that you keep. But I’m not going to spend too much time on that. You ever take a moment and step back and really think about why you’re always getting hollered at by the same old biddies? I mean the law of attraction says certain qualities in you should attract similar qualities in other people.
A wise man once said “all these fish in the sea and I keep putting my fishing pole in the same dirty ass pond.” I thought this was hilarious yet true. If you go fishing for a biddie in the same damn club every weekend you’re probably gonna catch a party animal on your line. If you go fishing for a biddie at your job you’ll probably find an awkward ass relationship on your line. If you go fishing for a biddie on the block you’ll probably find a whole lot of cash and not one ounce of credit. If you go fishing for a biddie at a damn Anthony Hamilton concert you may find a struggling artist with a dream but no motivation to make anything of it.
I’m saying if you find yourself with the same undesirable fish on your line maybe you should close up shop at that dirty ass pond and start fishing in the sea. I promise you’ll save yourself a lot of time not having to throw as many fish back.
-Becks
I feel as though throughout my life I have always befriended people that compliment me in so many different ways. After all you are the company that you keep. But I’m not going to spend too much time on that. You ever take a moment and step back and really think about why you’re always getting hollered at by the same old biddies? I mean the law of attraction says certain qualities in you should attract similar qualities in other people.
A wise man once said “all these fish in the sea and I keep putting my fishing pole in the same dirty ass pond.” I thought this was hilarious yet true. If you go fishing for a biddie in the same damn club every weekend you’re probably gonna catch a party animal on your line. If you go fishing for a biddie at your job you’ll probably find an awkward ass relationship on your line. If you go fishing for a biddie on the block you’ll probably find a whole lot of cash and not one ounce of credit. If you go fishing for a biddie at a damn Anthony Hamilton concert you may find a struggling artist with a dream but no motivation to make anything of it.
I’m saying if you find yourself with the same undesirable fish on your line maybe you should close up shop at that dirty ass pond and start fishing in the sea. I promise you’ll save yourself a lot of time not having to throw as many fish back.
-Becks
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Daily Insight: Build A Biddie
Now you all should know by now my friends discuss a wide array of topics. Everything from ratchet to political, but this specific conversation I would like to share falls into everyone’s favorite category….relationships. More specifically coming to the revelation that girls pick guys to date like projects, I call it the “build a biddie” theory similar to a Build a Bear.
A wise man once said “girls pick guys with potential. So we fix 'em up "teach 'em how to chew with their mouth closed and then they start chewing with the next girl" (ok Jim Jones gf is not the best to quote but it was appropriate lol). But we have to remember that ppl are in you life for a reason, whether it be a season or a lifetime. So all though you may have been a season you did serve your purpose. Now the key is to start picking guys that have the complete package. Because if you keep doing the same thing and expect different results that called insanity. Next time we choose then we will be around for a lifetime because the other chicks served their season and helped him become the complete package for you. Even though we don't like being the season we have to realize that guys need help and some chick out there is out helping you Mr. Right get it together.”
I completely agree with the fact that we have all at one point or another “built a biddie.” Whether it’s teaching that dude that life does exist outside of the tri-state area, or maybe supporting someone as they build their career, or even as simple as telling someone holding a fork palm down and shoveling food into their mouth is not ok. But guess what we are getting a bit too old to still be out here building biddies.
Yes I understand you and your mate growing and maturing together but you shouldn’t be building this man from the ground up he is not a child and last time I checked these hips haven’t bore any just quite yet. We all need to make that conscious decision to start walking away from the “build a biddie” factory and start grabbing the fully assembled ones off the shelf.
-Becks
A wise man once said “girls pick guys with potential. So we fix 'em up "teach 'em how to chew with their mouth closed and then they start chewing with the next girl" (ok Jim Jones gf is not the best to quote but it was appropriate lol). But we have to remember that ppl are in you life for a reason, whether it be a season or a lifetime. So all though you may have been a season you did serve your purpose. Now the key is to start picking guys that have the complete package. Because if you keep doing the same thing and expect different results that called insanity. Next time we choose then we will be around for a lifetime because the other chicks served their season and helped him become the complete package for you. Even though we don't like being the season we have to realize that guys need help and some chick out there is out helping you Mr. Right get it together.”
I completely agree with the fact that we have all at one point or another “built a biddie.” Whether it’s teaching that dude that life does exist outside of the tri-state area, or maybe supporting someone as they build their career, or even as simple as telling someone holding a fork palm down and shoveling food into their mouth is not ok. But guess what we are getting a bit too old to still be out here building biddies.
Yes I understand you and your mate growing and maturing together but you shouldn’t be building this man from the ground up he is not a child and last time I checked these hips haven’t bore any just quite yet. We all need to make that conscious decision to start walking away from the “build a biddie” factory and start grabbing the fully assembled ones off the shelf.
-Becks
Friday, March 18, 2011
Daily Insight: You Know What Spring Means
Spring is quickly approaching people. You know what that means? Yes, it means butterflies, and April mid-day showers, and flowers, and warmer weather, and blah blah blah. What the beginning of Spring really means is shedding the winter layers, hanging up that winter coat, putting away the skullies with the brims, but most importantly the end of cuffing season!
Yes, the end of cuffing season. I know we all picked up a little boo joint when it was negative 15 degrees outside with 42 feet of snow, but all of that has just about run it’s course. That person you’ve been snuggling up to suddenly doesn’t look so snuggable when the temperature breaks 60. Now I’m not saying to cut off anything you think may bloom into something special, but just take some time step back and take a good ass look at everyone else macking and hanging this spring. Because after all new April cities, bring new May biddies.
-Becks
Yes, the end of cuffing season. I know we all picked up a little boo joint when it was negative 15 degrees outside with 42 feet of snow, but all of that has just about run it’s course. That person you’ve been snuggling up to suddenly doesn’t look so snuggable when the temperature breaks 60. Now I’m not saying to cut off anything you think may bloom into something special, but just take some time step back and take a good ass look at everyone else macking and hanging this spring. Because after all new April cities, bring new May biddies.
-Becks
Friday, March 11, 2011
Daily Insight: It's Not That Serious
There are a lot of tragic things happening in this world. And our world is changing. I’ve never been the type to watch the news, not because I believe ignorance is truly bliss but because it is too depressing.
There are major events that are going to happen in your lifetime and something’s that you won’t understand in the moment. And something’s you think are major, but they just aren’t that damn serious. And if you take the time to look outside of your own problems you may be able to help another.
Maybe homeboy who stepped on your fresh Constructs doesn’t need to be cursed out, maybe you shouldn’t threaten someone’s life over a parking spot, and maybe you shouldn’t have a heart attack about there being a scratch on your precious iPhone.
Things have a way of turning out to not be as detrimental as you believe once you stop focusing on only yourself. I will continue to pray for everyone being affected by these natural disasters, and next time someone doesn’t say thank you when I hold the door for them I’ll just smirk and say “you’re welcome” anyway.
-Becks
There are major events that are going to happen in your lifetime and something’s that you won’t understand in the moment. And something’s you think are major, but they just aren’t that damn serious. And if you take the time to look outside of your own problems you may be able to help another.
Maybe homeboy who stepped on your fresh Constructs doesn’t need to be cursed out, maybe you shouldn’t threaten someone’s life over a parking spot, and maybe you shouldn’t have a heart attack about there being a scratch on your precious iPhone.
Things have a way of turning out to not be as detrimental as you believe once you stop focusing on only yourself. I will continue to pray for everyone being affected by these natural disasters, and next time someone doesn’t say thank you when I hold the door for them I’ll just smirk and say “you’re welcome” anyway.
-Becks
Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Daily Insight: Follow Your Dreams and Help Others Accomplish Theirs
A wise man once said "some women choose to follow men and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that you're career will never wake up one morning and tell you it doesn't love you anymore."
You will never go wrong when you follow your dreams...
On that note please vote for my friend Shana to win her own line of beauty products! All I ask of you is to log into your YouTube account follow the link below...and click thumbs up on her video.
If we have the capacity to help someone accomplish a dream we should do all we can!
Thumbs Up to VOTE! http://youtu.be/X40JEHI3kcA?a
-Becks
You will never go wrong when you follow your dreams...
On that note please vote for my friend Shana to win her own line of beauty products! All I ask of you is to log into your YouTube account follow the link below...and click thumbs up on her video.
If we have the capacity to help someone accomplish a dream we should do all we can!
Thumbs Up to VOTE! http://youtu.be/X40JEHI3kcA?a
-Becks
Friday, February 25, 2011
Daily Insight: Leaving The Picture
There are a lot of ways a picture can be used a metaphor for life. We all know the one, a picture is worth a thousand words, pictures can take you back to certain moments in your life, blah blah blah. I’ve come up with my own metaphor for life using pictures.
I have come to the conclusion that people never really leave the picture…they just lurk in the corner somewhere and pop back into your life like the “whoopsies” man on Mortal Kombat. If you don’t know what I mean by that PLEASEEEE google it, I guarantee you will cry laughing.
You ever wonder how is it that the guy or girl you broke up with back in middle school still has your number, and hit you with the old…”I was just thinking about you…” messages. Because for one, you haven’t changed your number since the 8th grade and 2 they never left the picture.
Or the girl or guy that you had that slight disagreement with at the skating rink that time still snaps their fingers and rolls their eyes when they see you. Notice I said skating rink…that was not a typo, this disagreement happened in the early 90s yet the person is still in the picture lurking the corner waiting to pop off.
I say this to say people come in and out of the picture of your life often. But some people don’t know how to exit stage left properly, and will pop up right in the middle of your pretty picture when you least expect it. My advice is to frame it a little tighter. I know I have.
-Becks
I have come to the conclusion that people never really leave the picture…they just lurk in the corner somewhere and pop back into your life like the “whoopsies” man on Mortal Kombat. If you don’t know what I mean by that PLEASEEEE google it, I guarantee you will cry laughing.
You ever wonder how is it that the guy or girl you broke up with back in middle school still has your number, and hit you with the old…”I was just thinking about you…” messages. Because for one, you haven’t changed your number since the 8th grade and 2 they never left the picture.
Or the girl or guy that you had that slight disagreement with at the skating rink that time still snaps their fingers and rolls their eyes when they see you. Notice I said skating rink…that was not a typo, this disagreement happened in the early 90s yet the person is still in the picture lurking the corner waiting to pop off.
I say this to say people come in and out of the picture of your life often. But some people don’t know how to exit stage left properly, and will pop up right in the middle of your pretty picture when you least expect it. My advice is to frame it a little tighter. I know I have.
-Becks
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Daily Insight: Loyalty
I’m going to go a bit off the beaten path today with today’s daily insight. Everyone who knows me knows I am a huge sports fan, always have been and always will be. Ever since that great day in May or 1987 I have been conditioned to remain loyal to all NY sports teams. Yankees, Mets, Islanders, Rangers, Jet, Giants, and of course the best of all the KNICKS.
I know we got some great news yesterday as Knicks fans when it was announced that Carmelo Anthony, and Chauncey Billups will wear that blue and orange uniform, and dap up Spike Lee on that layup line. And with such an epic accomplishment comes the bandwagon fans. Yes ladies and gentlemen the people who hop from team to team with no type of loyalty. I have a few questions for those people, just to clarify if you’re not sure if you fit into the category.
Were you a NY Knicks fan when Patrick Ewing came down the lane wiiiiideee open and looked like he was going to dunk the ball but instead opted for that finger roll which he BRICKED?? Were you a fan when John Starks aka “the great light hope” would chuck the ball up everytime he touched it?? Were you a fan when Anthony Mason was crazier than Ron Artest and Kevin Garnett put together?? Were you a fan when Latrell Sprewell was our greatest hope?? -__-. Were you a fan when Jeff Van Gundy clung to the leg of Alonzo Morning when that Heat/ Knicks fight broke out?? Were you a fan when Alan Houston was ALWAYS hurt?? And were you a fan when Reggie Miller would hit a miracle 3 pointer at the buzzer every single time to crush the Knicks playoff dreams??
No? Well I was. My relationship with the Knicks has been like Ike and Tina Turner. I give and I give but never got back in return. Until now. Let us loyal fans bask in this glory, and you bandwagoners can hang on to the back.
-Becks
I know we got some great news yesterday as Knicks fans when it was announced that Carmelo Anthony, and Chauncey Billups will wear that blue and orange uniform, and dap up Spike Lee on that layup line. And with such an epic accomplishment comes the bandwagon fans. Yes ladies and gentlemen the people who hop from team to team with no type of loyalty. I have a few questions for those people, just to clarify if you’re not sure if you fit into the category.
Were you a NY Knicks fan when Patrick Ewing came down the lane wiiiiideee open and looked like he was going to dunk the ball but instead opted for that finger roll which he BRICKED?? Were you a fan when John Starks aka “the great light hope” would chuck the ball up everytime he touched it?? Were you a fan when Anthony Mason was crazier than Ron Artest and Kevin Garnett put together?? Were you a fan when Latrell Sprewell was our greatest hope?? -__-. Were you a fan when Jeff Van Gundy clung to the leg of Alonzo Morning when that Heat/ Knicks fight broke out?? Were you a fan when Alan Houston was ALWAYS hurt?? And were you a fan when Reggie Miller would hit a miracle 3 pointer at the buzzer every single time to crush the Knicks playoff dreams??
No? Well I was. My relationship with the Knicks has been like Ike and Tina Turner. I give and I give but never got back in return. Until now. Let us loyal fans bask in this glory, and you bandwagoners can hang on to the back.
-Becks
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Daily Insight: Balance You Out
I have so many good people in my life right now and that was reiterated on Valentines Day with all of the heartfelt messages from none other than my friends. My biddies from day one. I would like to think I have surrounded myself with a pretty hilarious group of people all with our individual quirks, and opinions.
I have come to conclusion that you should surround yourself with people that will constantly balance you out. If you’re not one to ride cheeks to often for whatever reason, be it pride or you just don’t know how to…make sure you have that friend that will ride them cheeks like a damn rodeo. Now when I say “ride cheeks” I mean for example that friend that will always get you the perks of knowing someone in a good place. Whether it’s the dude in Vegas with the key to the city, or the hoodbooger with the hookup to Crown Fried. Ride them cheeks!
If you always go for a particular kind of guy or gal sort of on the Jamie Foxx “always fall for your type” tip make sure you have that friend that is always going to have a taste in the opposite sex completely different from yours. If you always go for the sultry, granola, corporate America types, make sure you have that friend that is a “sucker for corn rows and manicure toes pretty Capri pants and parasucos.”
I say this to say that the people you surround yourself should be able to balance you out. It’s a give and take relationship. My friends give me happiness and I take it.
-Becks
I have come to conclusion that you should surround yourself with people that will constantly balance you out. If you’re not one to ride cheeks to often for whatever reason, be it pride or you just don’t know how to…make sure you have that friend that will ride them cheeks like a damn rodeo. Now when I say “ride cheeks” I mean for example that friend that will always get you the perks of knowing someone in a good place. Whether it’s the dude in Vegas with the key to the city, or the hoodbooger with the hookup to Crown Fried. Ride them cheeks!
If you always go for a particular kind of guy or gal sort of on the Jamie Foxx “always fall for your type” tip make sure you have that friend that is always going to have a taste in the opposite sex completely different from yours. If you always go for the sultry, granola, corporate America types, make sure you have that friend that is a “sucker for corn rows and manicure toes pretty Capri pants and parasucos.”
I say this to say that the people you surround yourself should be able to balance you out. It’s a give and take relationship. My friends give me happiness and I take it.
-Becks
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Daily Insight: Lesson Learned
We will all be taught a lot of lessons in our lifetime. Some of them will be given by others, for example the “Beyond Scared Straight” lesson that jail isn’t as cool as it seems. And there are those lessons that we give ourselves.
Boy oh boy did I teach myself a lesson these last couple of weeks. I like to think I have a degree in bullshitting or skitting as I like to call it. Hell, I went to Howard University, and told my first job after college I couldn’t start work because I was “studying abroad” all summer, meanwhile I was kicking it HARD. But I digress from the subject here…
The lesson I have learned is you can bullshit a lot of people in your life but you can not bullshit yourself. You may be able to convince everyone around you that you love your job, but when you wake up angry at the world every morning you know that’s not the case. You may be able to convince other people that you have changed the person you are to fit social norms, but when you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin that’s a good indication that you don’t need to change. You may be able to convince yourself that the wiggly feeling is non-existent but when you see that person every time those feelings come rushing back, you can’t suppress that.
I say this to say, yes there will be times when you have to put a smile on your face and skit the world. But how will you ever be able to convey your true self when it counts, if you can’t even be honest with you? Think about it.
-Becks
Boy oh boy did I teach myself a lesson these last couple of weeks. I like to think I have a degree in bullshitting or skitting as I like to call it. Hell, I went to Howard University, and told my first job after college I couldn’t start work because I was “studying abroad” all summer, meanwhile I was kicking it HARD. But I digress from the subject here…
The lesson I have learned is you can bullshit a lot of people in your life but you can not bullshit yourself. You may be able to convince everyone around you that you love your job, but when you wake up angry at the world every morning you know that’s not the case. You may be able to convince other people that you have changed the person you are to fit social norms, but when you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin that’s a good indication that you don’t need to change. You may be able to convince yourself that the wiggly feeling is non-existent but when you see that person every time those feelings come rushing back, you can’t suppress that.
I say this to say, yes there will be times when you have to put a smile on your face and skit the world. But how will you ever be able to convey your true self when it counts, if you can’t even be honest with you? Think about it.
-Becks
Monday, February 7, 2011
Daily Insight: 20 Feet Tall
A wise man once said “my love what did I do to make you fall so far from me.
And now, I can’t recall cause of the fall selected memory. Then you, you built a wall
a 20 foot wall so I couldn’t see, but if I get off my knees I might recall I’m 20 feet tall.
I’m no Erykah Badu expert, but my interpretation of what she is saying rings so true. A lot of things in life are going to seem unattainable at times. You may think there’s a wall between you and your dreams, or you and that goal you have or you and that biddie you’ve been crushing on. The more you think about it or doubt yourself the taller that wall is going to be.
But if you stop putting so much energy into doubting yourself and pick that ass up by your boot straps you’ll come to realize nothing is out of reach. Think about it. How many times have you given up on scaling the walls of life to get what you truly want because it was too high?
I spend time on my knees asking God to help me attain the things I believe I can not get on my own. And when I get off my knees I come to realize I’m 20 feet tall, and I hope you will too.
-Becks
And now, I can’t recall cause of the fall selected memory. Then you, you built a wall
a 20 foot wall so I couldn’t see, but if I get off my knees I might recall I’m 20 feet tall.
I’m no Erykah Badu expert, but my interpretation of what she is saying rings so true. A lot of things in life are going to seem unattainable at times. You may think there’s a wall between you and your dreams, or you and that goal you have or you and that biddie you’ve been crushing on. The more you think about it or doubt yourself the taller that wall is going to be.
But if you stop putting so much energy into doubting yourself and pick that ass up by your boot straps you’ll come to realize nothing is out of reach. Think about it. How many times have you given up on scaling the walls of life to get what you truly want because it was too high?
I spend time on my knees asking God to help me attain the things I believe I can not get on my own. And when I get off my knees I come to realize I’m 20 feet tall, and I hope you will too.
-Becks
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Daily Insight: Rolodex
A wise man once said "everyone that you encounter in life is there for a reason or a season.." So I can interpret this in many different ways but I am going for the ratchet interpretation today :).
I was talking to a friend on the phone the other day and I came to realize some people especially her ass don't really allow biddies to leave her life when their reason has been fulfilled or their season is up.
On that note if you're going to file people in the Rolodex (old school rotating phone book) of life for certain purposes they serve make sure you at least file them correctly.
If you're looking to have a deep conversation don't go looking for a biddie to call up under "K" for Ken Doll..you'll find no more than some arm candy.
If you're looking to bring a date to Thanksgiving dinner don't go looking to call up under "H" for Hood reggin because you'll have to explain to your family why your date is hovering over his food eating like he's in a chow hall.
If you're looking for consistent company don't go looking under "J" for jet setter than biddie is on the other side of the country unless you like Skype that damn much.
If you're looking to do some spring cleaning specifically cleaning out some cob webs you better be damn skippy you need to flip that Rolodex to "P" for pipe layer.
I say all of this to say some people prefer have biddies hanging around to be able to call on them when they need a void filled. Just make sure you file them biddies correctly nothing worse than calling the wrong damn number.
-Becks
I was talking to a friend on the phone the other day and I came to realize some people especially her ass don't really allow biddies to leave her life when their reason has been fulfilled or their season is up.
On that note if you're going to file people in the Rolodex (old school rotating phone book) of life for certain purposes they serve make sure you at least file them correctly.
If you're looking to have a deep conversation don't go looking for a biddie to call up under "K" for Ken Doll..you'll find no more than some arm candy.
If you're looking to bring a date to Thanksgiving dinner don't go looking to call up under "H" for Hood reggin because you'll have to explain to your family why your date is hovering over his food eating like he's in a chow hall.
If you're looking for consistent company don't go looking under "J" for jet setter than biddie is on the other side of the country unless you like Skype that damn much.
If you're looking to do some spring cleaning specifically cleaning out some cob webs you better be damn skippy you need to flip that Rolodex to "P" for pipe layer.
I say all of this to say some people prefer have biddies hanging around to be able to call on them when they need a void filled. Just make sure you file them biddies correctly nothing worse than calling the wrong damn number.
-Becks
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Daily Insight: Wise Words From A Decent Man
Todays Daily Insight is written by a good friend of mine and a man wise beyond his years.
Live free, w/o boundaries and set your own rules...
Be completely who you are don't act according to what others would consider appropriate... If u wanna quit ur boring Job in the cubicle thats safe to be an actor do it..if u wanna date/spoon/bone someone that may cause an uproar do it... Other ppls perception of you aren't even real... When u act out of whatever is brewing inside of you then u are completely free...even if u r wrong it's ok you did what u wanted to do...The greatest things in life have come from ppl doing what they wanna do... Use your imagination and take action.. Just respect those u love and care abt... No need to be cool for tv (fronting for nothing) cause the only person watching that matters is the man upstairs just be you...
-Hubstah
Live free, w/o boundaries and set your own rules...
Be completely who you are don't act according to what others would consider appropriate... If u wanna quit ur boring Job in the cubicle thats safe to be an actor do it..if u wanna date/spoon/bone someone that may cause an uproar do it... Other ppls perception of you aren't even real... When u act out of whatever is brewing inside of you then u are completely free...even if u r wrong it's ok you did what u wanted to do...The greatest things in life have come from ppl doing what they wanna do... Use your imagination and take action.. Just respect those u love and care abt... No need to be cool for tv (fronting for nothing) cause the only person watching that matters is the man upstairs just be you...
-Hubstah
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Daily Insight: Taking One For The Team
As I come off of the high that was a hilariously perfect weekend trip with about 30 friends to the Pocs I realize there are a lot of lessons to be learned about your friends.
Like i didn't know this already but I have surrounded myself with some of the most classic, genuine, and hilarious people on the face of this earth. And not even all of my friends were on the trip. One other lesson I learned is at one point or another EVERY damn person is going to have to take one for the greater good of the team!
This can come in a multitude of fashions....whether it be, ehhh let's say flirting with a coworker to get your frens a free blog, or attending a Keith Sweat headlined concert cause one of your friends is completely thirsty to go (which no one would attend with me -___-). Or maybe it would be sacrificing some leg room in that 1999 VW Jetta so you can stuff your DJ equipment in the car for the betterment of the party. Or even giving a police officer a little bribe in the form of a little dance to make sure the party doesn't get shut down.
I say this to say at one point it's going to be one friends turn to take one for the team. Just make sure next time the cop is threatening to shut the party down you're willing to grab them ankles and keep the party popping :)
-Becks
Like i didn't know this already but I have surrounded myself with some of the most classic, genuine, and hilarious people on the face of this earth. And not even all of my friends were on the trip. One other lesson I learned is at one point or another EVERY damn person is going to have to take one for the greater good of the team!
This can come in a multitude of fashions....whether it be, ehhh let's say flirting with a coworker to get your frens a free blog, or attending a Keith Sweat headlined concert cause one of your friends is completely thirsty to go (which no one would attend with me -___-). Or maybe it would be sacrificing some leg room in that 1999 VW Jetta so you can stuff your DJ equipment in the car for the betterment of the party. Or even giving a police officer a little bribe in the form of a little dance to make sure the party doesn't get shut down.
I say this to say at one point it's going to be one friends turn to take one for the team. Just make sure next time the cop is threatening to shut the party down you're willing to grab them ankles and keep the party popping :)
-Becks
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Daily Insight: Might Have To Stop Giving Inches
Some things in life you come to realize are a reoccurring theme. I’ve come across one of these themes that I think everyone can relate to. A wise man once said “give someone an inch and they’ll take a damn mile.” I have no idea who said this…but ain’t that the truth!?! It makes you sort of hesitant about who you start giving even a half an inch to…
For instance the man at your job you keep seeing, and finally engage in conversation when he corners you by the coffee machine in the cafeteria. “Oh hello sir, yes I do see you around a lot, oh ok my name is Becky nice to meet you.” Next thing you know everytime you pass this mans desk he has a comment that he just feels as though it’s imperative for you to hear! He even goes as far as responding to your “how are you,” with a sly grin, and a “better now that I’ve seen you.” SIR! Give me my inch back!
Or how about the person you have a bit of friendly banter back and forth with on that social networking site. Next thing you know they’re sending you a private message with they phone number talmbout hit me up. How about we keep this to a public forum? (Never happened to me btw).
Or that friend that you complimented that one sweater dress on….next thing you know they got 93829 sweater dresses fishing for compliments. They damn sure took that inch a bit far, and set back their wardrobe variety a mile in the meantime.
I say this to say that maybe there has to be a mutual understanding between an inch and a mile. Otherwise you might have to start turning those inches into millimeters.
-Becks
For instance the man at your job you keep seeing, and finally engage in conversation when he corners you by the coffee machine in the cafeteria. “Oh hello sir, yes I do see you around a lot, oh ok my name is Becky nice to meet you.” Next thing you know everytime you pass this mans desk he has a comment that he just feels as though it’s imperative for you to hear! He even goes as far as responding to your “how are you,” with a sly grin, and a “better now that I’ve seen you.” SIR! Give me my inch back!
Or how about the person you have a bit of friendly banter back and forth with on that social networking site. Next thing you know they’re sending you a private message with they phone number talmbout hit me up. How about we keep this to a public forum? (Never happened to me btw).
Or that friend that you complimented that one sweater dress on….next thing you know they got 93829 sweater dresses fishing for compliments. They damn sure took that inch a bit far, and set back their wardrobe variety a mile in the meantime.
I say this to say that maybe there has to be a mutual understanding between an inch and a mile. Otherwise you might have to start turning those inches into millimeters.
-Becks
Friday, January 14, 2011
Daily Insight: Consistency
I’ve been known to be somewhat of a creature of habit. Yes I like things to remain pretty level, and I like my routine. Everyone knows what kinds of foods I like, what my hobbies are, what shit I might talk, and what kind of cardigans I like to wear. I say that to say that there are aspects of your life no matter how distant they may be can share a common bond.
It dawned on me yesterday, wow, I like my men like I like my Chinese food store…CONSISTENT. If a biddie is known to hit you with the good morning text, known to give you a certain wiggly feeling, known to always have a haircut, I don’t want that to suddenly change. I’m sorry but I would like those things to stay consistent. Of course variety is the spice of life but something’s about men are better left unchanged. I also consider these aspects when choosing a Chinese food store…
Now let’s keep it real, Chinese food is one of those delicacies that can get a little shaky at times. We have all had those rib tips that just ain’t quite right. But when you find that one Golden Express that gets it right week after week, you stick with them. Hell after a while they may know what you like to order as soon as you walk in (ie chicken and broccoli white rice no broccoli, don’t ask).
I say this to say when you find a common bond in some aspects of your life don’t let that standard be compromised. If that biddie starts pulling disappearing acts, you cut that joint off! If that Chinese food store starts giving you cold ass egg rolls, you move on to the next Golden Express. They’re both a dime a dozen.
-Becks
It dawned on me yesterday, wow, I like my men like I like my Chinese food store…CONSISTENT. If a biddie is known to hit you with the good morning text, known to give you a certain wiggly feeling, known to always have a haircut, I don’t want that to suddenly change. I’m sorry but I would like those things to stay consistent. Of course variety is the spice of life but something’s about men are better left unchanged. I also consider these aspects when choosing a Chinese food store…
Now let’s keep it real, Chinese food is one of those delicacies that can get a little shaky at times. We have all had those rib tips that just ain’t quite right. But when you find that one Golden Express that gets it right week after week, you stick with them. Hell after a while they may know what you like to order as soon as you walk in (ie chicken and broccoli white rice no broccoli, don’t ask).
I say this to say when you find a common bond in some aspects of your life don’t let that standard be compromised. If that biddie starts pulling disappearing acts, you cut that joint off! If that Chinese food store starts giving you cold ass egg rolls, you move on to the next Golden Express. They’re both a dime a dozen.
-Becks
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Daily Insight: Shoes and Cars
A wise man once said “she don’t believe in shooting stars but she believe in shoes and cars.” I’m pretty sure Ye isn’t saying this particular girl doesn’t believe in all things as abstract as shooting stars, but he does have a point. Our society is driven by material things.
To homeboy who stood in line for 483732 hours to get them Jordans, make sure you spend just as much time with your loved ones. To the kid who spends $400 on a gaming console, make sure you know what it’s like to use your imagination. Running around the side of the house pretending to be a spy was THE MOST fun when I was a kid. To the woman who has the latest bag, make sure that’s the only baggage you’re carrying around. To the rapper wearing 93 Jesus pieces around your neck, make sure you know what you’re wearing symbolizes.
I will be the first to admit; YES I have an obscene amount of clothing, shoes, electronics, jewelry and other material possessions. But those are not the things that make me the most happy. The trick is to find things to stay grounded with and do not get lost in the world of material possessions.
Make a connection with a person rather than connecting your credit card to a register. Because when everything is said and done the material things you have are not the things you will be remembered for.
-Becks
To homeboy who stood in line for 483732 hours to get them Jordans, make sure you spend just as much time with your loved ones. To the kid who spends $400 on a gaming console, make sure you know what it’s like to use your imagination. Running around the side of the house pretending to be a spy was THE MOST fun when I was a kid. To the woman who has the latest bag, make sure that’s the only baggage you’re carrying around. To the rapper wearing 93 Jesus pieces around your neck, make sure you know what you’re wearing symbolizes.
I will be the first to admit; YES I have an obscene amount of clothing, shoes, electronics, jewelry and other material possessions. But those are not the things that make me the most happy. The trick is to find things to stay grounded with and do not get lost in the world of material possessions.
Make a connection with a person rather than connecting your credit card to a register. Because when everything is said and done the material things you have are not the things you will be remembered for.
-Becks
Friday, January 7, 2011
Daily Insight: Complain
A wise man once said “I can sing about love lost, but what if there’s no love to lose. If everyday I saw sunshine and it never rained the blues. If my fears were tears would they fall? If a smile could stretch a mile even if I have no money at all. But I’m willing to take whatever life brings, because you’re the only one who seems to know me. Even if the bad times call if I had you back I wouldn’t complain at all.”
I’m going to go ahead and interpret what Tweet was saying like I’m a translator. To me it all boils down to one thing. You can complain all you want about the things you don’t have, but whatever happened to just appreciating what you do? You complain that you don’t have any money, and you’re a broke college student (I’ve claimed this title), yet you’re in college to begin with, and have a roof over your head, and food to eat and feeing your mind daily. You complain about how this guy and that girl broke your heart, but you’ve experienced love to begin with, something a lot of people don’t ever get to feel. People constantly look at what other people have and start to count the things they don’t have, and of course complain about it. You complain about how your back is aching and your bra too tight and your booty shaking from left to right….ok that was a joke. But you get the point.
I say this to say not everything is going to be perfect and you will want to count other peoples blessing and compare them to your own. But life is not about that, I bet if you took a good hard look you wouldn’t be able to find too many damn things to complain about. I know I can’t.
-Becks
I’m going to go ahead and interpret what Tweet was saying like I’m a translator. To me it all boils down to one thing. You can complain all you want about the things you don’t have, but whatever happened to just appreciating what you do? You complain that you don’t have any money, and you’re a broke college student (I’ve claimed this title), yet you’re in college to begin with, and have a roof over your head, and food to eat and feeing your mind daily. You complain about how this guy and that girl broke your heart, but you’ve experienced love to begin with, something a lot of people don’t ever get to feel. People constantly look at what other people have and start to count the things they don’t have, and of course complain about it. You complain about how your back is aching and your bra too tight and your booty shaking from left to right….ok that was a joke. But you get the point.
I say this to say not everything is going to be perfect and you will want to count other peoples blessing and compare them to your own. But life is not about that, I bet if you took a good hard look you wouldn’t be able to find too many damn things to complain about. I know I can’t.
-Becks
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Daily Insight: 525,600 Minutes
Another year down people how crazy is it?? I feel like it was just yesterday when 2010 was being rung in and my friends head was in a trash can before midnight…but I digress..
2010 came and went but what will you say about this year when you look back on it? A wise man once said “525,600 minutes, 525,600 moments so dear, 525,600 minutes how will you measure, measure a year? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee, in inches in miles, in laugher, in strife, in 525,600 minutes, how do you measure a year in the life??”
This year for me personally was filled with ups and downs like a rollercoaster. High highs and some pretty low lows. But the point is that I remember and cherish the highs and take the lows as a lesson. Life is too short to waste a year no matter how fast it flys by.
If you look back on 2010 and can’t really remember anything maybe you should lay off the mind altering substances it really may be killing brain cells. If you look back on 2010 and didn’t accomplish that goal that you wanted to because you didn’t have enough time but, had enough time to complain about it you should rethink what you spend your time doing. If you spent 2010 getting your heart broken maybe you should close down your account on Match.com, everything comes in due time, and cupid doesn’t like to be rushed.
But most of all if you spent your 525,600 minutes of 2010 not making memories that will last a lifetime you may have wasted a year.
-Becks
2010 came and went but what will you say about this year when you look back on it? A wise man once said “525,600 minutes, 525,600 moments so dear, 525,600 minutes how will you measure, measure a year? In daylights, in sunsets, in midnights, in cups of coffee, in inches in miles, in laugher, in strife, in 525,600 minutes, how do you measure a year in the life??”
This year for me personally was filled with ups and downs like a rollercoaster. High highs and some pretty low lows. But the point is that I remember and cherish the highs and take the lows as a lesson. Life is too short to waste a year no matter how fast it flys by.
If you look back on 2010 and can’t really remember anything maybe you should lay off the mind altering substances it really may be killing brain cells. If you look back on 2010 and didn’t accomplish that goal that you wanted to because you didn’t have enough time but, had enough time to complain about it you should rethink what you spend your time doing. If you spent 2010 getting your heart broken maybe you should close down your account on Match.com, everything comes in due time, and cupid doesn’t like to be rushed.
But most of all if you spent your 525,600 minutes of 2010 not making memories that will last a lifetime you may have wasted a year.
-Becks
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